“To the person who does not know where he wants to go there is no favorable wind.” – Seneca

What’s Inside

Kery, a Client Advisor for Lexus, can tell you everything you need to know about driving and operating a car.  He understands every part of each of the vehicles he represents.  And, he has a distinctive understanding of the most important component of driving forward successfully.  His most significant skill is his understanding of the human element of driving, as anyone who has spent a little personal time with him will tell you. It’s a skill he began to refine very early in life and he’s enhanced it continually throughout his more than fifty years of living.

“I grew up with a single mother.” Kery Spinabella said.  “She became disabled just after she turned eighteen as a result of being in a chemical fire that burned a large portion of her body while she was working.”

Yet, his mother, despite her difficult physical challenges, raised four children successfully and lived well past the life expectancy projections provided to her by numerous attending physicians. Rather than living a short life of less than thirty years she lived to an age of seventy-two, while raising four children and acting as a positive model for her subsequent grandchildren too.

“I have one brother and two sisters.  We all learned important life lessons as a result of what some would consider disadvantaged circumstances.”  Kary explained, just before he went on to verbally illustrate a course that everyone can follow to drive their way forward, toward positive living.

The road you started on isn’t the road you need to stay on.  “I’m grateful for everything my mother did for me!  I will always admire her.  And, I learned to use my early life as an inspiration to become more.”  Kary said of how important it is to understand the benefits of using a rearview mirror in combination with a windshield.

A windshield gives you a good view of forward-facing options.  Ambition, which is a strong internal desire to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work, seems to act as a windshield wiper, in that it allows you to have a clear vision of where you want to go.

Seneca, a Roman Stoic philosopher famously illustrated this principle by teaching, “To the person who does not know where he wants to go there is no favorable wind.”

Hard work with vision, driving-force, is what will allow you to move forward, as if compelled by a favorable wind.  Without such initiative one may as well be trying to drive blindly-forward while looking solely at their rearview mirror.  Such “rear-viewing” people seem to label those who use their individual driving-force to obtain positive progress as purely lucky in life.  While never expressing gratitude for what they, themselves have.

“It’s important to cherish and hold the principle of gratitude as essentially fundamental.”  Kery explains.  “After all, it is always easy to see that there others who have more than you do!  That kind of focus leads people to suffer from ‘glare syndrome.’ It’s like driving your car while having the sun shine so directly, brightly, that you can no longer see the road ahead clearly.  If the glare is strong enough it consumes all energy just to eke your way forward. When that happens, you can’t even attempt to see any surrounding beauty because you become paralyzed by the fear of what could lie ahead.”  

Holding on to an inner attitude of gratitude is like wearing the best polarizing sunglasses ever made.  Gratitude, like those sunglasses, will keep your eyes from being burned, damaged beyond repair and permanently disabled.

“I grew up with a single mother.” Kery shared.  “She became disabled just after she turned eighteen as a result of being in a chemical fire that burned a large portion of her body while she was working.”  Living with such a strong, loving, giving woman and family, in his early life, allowed Kery to cultivate a unique and distinctive understanding of the most important principles of driving toward positive living.

It is what’s inside that counts!