Monday, March 28, 2016

Highlighting

Marking what you’ve accomplished

Highlighting

It was nearing the end of the workweek and it just kept coming!  There were so many things out of my control.  I was watching the clock tick as the Federal Reserve wiring deadline loomed.  You’ve heard something similar.

Tick.  Tick.  Tick.

Even though there wasn’t really a clock ticking.  I could hear it.  My client could hear it.  The money for the purchase of his property was supposed to be wired to his title company the morning before.  Then is was to be wire at ten a.m. today, then eleven a.m., then eleven-thirty a.m.  Now it was two p.m. and still no wire!

I excused myself from a meeting when my screen lit up.  It was my anxious client.  I took the call.

“Any word yet?”  He asked.

“Nothing!’  I responded.

“We’re running out of time!” He said angrily.

“I understand.  There is nothing more I can do.  They’re working to get it completed.  I’m just leaving them alone now so I don’t interrupt their work.  As soon as I have word I’ll get back with you.”  I said in a calming manner.  “It will get done!”

I knew we had less than one half hour until the wiring deadline was upon us.  The ticking thumped in my head again.

Tick.  Tick.  Tick.  Tick!

I walked back into my meeting feeling tense, worried and sad.  My hope for a positive outcome was fading.  I tried to tune the ticking out and reengaged in the meeting at hand. But, I still had one eye firmly entranced at my phone’s screen.

Just as the meeting was coming to an end, two-fifteen p.m., the display flickered to life!

“Signing now!”

I felt relief surge through my chest.   My fingers flew across the glass-like message surface.  I repeated the message to my waiting client.
Two twenty-nine p.m.  A flicker!

“Wire sent!”

I forwarded this message of success and then drove to my office where I sat at my desk to call the title company to check on the arrival of funds.  It was now just after three p.m.  The funds still hadn’t arrived.

“It’s Easter weekend so I guess things are a little slow at the Fed.” She said.

I didn’t hear from her again until after four p.m. as the escrow agent was in the process of getting everything together to disburse the received funds and record.  I was already on my way to her so I could sign some other documents for a different transaction.

When I arrived at about four thirty p.m. she was frantically working on the computer to finish the recording.  She jumped up to give me documents for signing.

“Don’t worry about me.”  I said.  “Just relax and finish what you’re doing.”

She finished just before five p.m. and the closing of the recorder’s office!  I signed the other documents and then slinked outside and into the seat of my car.  “What a wild and challenging couple of days!”  I said to myself.  Then I heard another tick, the tick of a memory.

My friend Shelly Tripp flashed in my mind and it was as if I could hear her say, “I highlight the things I’ve accomplished on my to do list.  That way I can see what I’ve done!”

Her convention of highlighting was exactly opposite of my own personal practice at the time.  And, for this week now in my rear view mirror, I realized that I had lapsed back in to that old personal habit.

Tick!


I began to reimagine the past week and ticked off the things I had accomplished one by one.  I drove toward my home ticking off the miles and highlighting the great things that had come to pass over a few significant and memorable days.

Monday, March 21, 2016

Something Wonderful

“I’m past the fear now because I know that something wonderful is about to happen!”
– Kyle

Something Wonderful


I admire my friend Kyle.  Ever since I’ve known him he’s been steady and calm under every circumstance.  It’s an attribute I think almost everyone would like to have.  So, when he came into in to have a short conversation with me a couple of days ago I seized the opportunity to learn his secret.

“Most people don’t really grasp how much the world has changed since horrific economic challenges turned everything upside down beginning in 2007.”  Kyle said to me.

As he spoke I began to think about what he was saying in terms of my own experience.  I could see that he was right and said, “Yes.  It has had an affect on the world in a generational way.”

“That’s right.” He replied.  “Once I recognized the extent of the economic ripples, it allowed me to see that I needed to change the way I was living my life.  I could see that I was being frozen by fear!  My business was really struggling.  I was living a fearful existence.”

“I remember 2008 vividly!”  I said.  “It caused me to make huge changes in how I was living my life.”

“Right!”  He replied.  “Shifting economic conditions have had the same effect on every person.  The interesting thing is that many people haven’t taken the time to think about how they’ve changed and how the world is still in an evolutionary phase.  Once I went through that step myself everything changed for me!”

“How did that process change you?” I asked.

“It allowed me to move out of fear and into a new phase of living.  I’m past the fear now because I know that something wonderful is about to happen!  For example, we can see how the industrial revolution changed human life forever.  It’s easy for us to see it now because it’s in the past.  It can be tracked.  But, if a person has the ability to identify a change, as it’s occurring, then they can see the end result and anticipate it.  So, this has become a time of great excitement for me!”

“O.K., I get it now, but there is still huge ‘birthing’ pain ahead of us” I said.

“Yes.  But, when a person understands the movement toward a new destination, they can prepare for it sufficiently.  I think of it as driving a car.  When I understand and know attributes of the road toward a destination I’m prepared to stop at signs, traffic signals or fueling stations.  I can get fuel and food before a long distance or inhospitable space ahead.  I can make sure my vehicle is in top operating condition before I’m in a crisis.  But, if I don’t see the long stretch of desert ahead, ignore the signs and don’t purchase gas and food when it’s available, in preparation, it leads to certain disaster!”  He explained.

“A great analogy!” I responded.

I could see the parallels now because Kyle had kindly taught me and by the time we separated my admiration had grown.  He had shown me the secret to his peace and prosperity.  Now you know that something wonderful is coming too!

Take time to think about the way the world is changing and how you can change with it for the better.  We can all live in joy and anticipation if we’ll simply note the signs, make appropriate personal changes and focus on preparing for the road ahead.


Monday, March 14, 2016

Little Messages

“Post-it notes on car windows.”

Little messages

“I didn’t think that leaving the grocery store and arriving at my car would change my life.”  My friend Scotty said.

You can imagine how this statement captured our interest.  Gordon, Scotty and I were having a casual conversation when Scotty dropped this little line while catching our attention completely.  I just had to know more so I prodded him on.

“I walked up to my car and there was a Post-it note stuck on my door window.  My first reaction was, ‘Oh, great! Someone hit or banged my car and didn’t wait around to tell me so they left me a note.’  So, I tentatively pinched the note between my thumb and forefinger to read it.”

“And?” I impatiently inquired.

“It said, ‘You’re a beautiful person!’ and that’s it.”  Scotty continued.

“It had to say more than that to have a huge impact on your life!  Maybe they left it on your car by mistake.”  Gordon chimed in.

“That was only one part of what hit me.”  Scotty said.  “The next part of the experience is what opened my eyes to the intent of the person who left me the note.  After reading the note I took a quick glance around the parking lot to see if I could catch a clue as to who left me the Post-it.  There wasn’t a note writer to be discerned!  But there were the same Post-it notes on almost all of the cars surrounding me!  It caused me to take a little tour of the parking lot.  I call it my Post-it tour.  Each car had a similar message on it.  Not one was exactly the same!”

“Wow.”  I said.  “Someone went to a lot of effort!”

“Yes.”  Scotty said.  “But that isn’t the whole story!  I went back to the same store, same time, same day of the week and parking area the next week and what do you think happened?  You got it!  I, and about one hundred others, received another note, the same kind of thing, on a different color paper.  I did it for three weeks in a row and received the same type of inspirational message every time!”

“Can’t say I’ve ever seen that before.”  Gordon said.  “Closest thing I’ve ever come across was my friend Mike who would leave little notes for his wife.  He’d put them in unusual spots like inside her shoe.  She loved them!”

“After the third week I started my car and drove away thinking, everyone grows up thinking, ‘I’m special.  I’m going to change the world!’  But very few people do.  ‘Now, here’s a person that grew up and is doing something about it’ I said to myself.  They are changing the world in a very personal way!”  Scotty advanced.

As Scotty said that, it made an impact on me.  My friend Scotty knows lots of famous and very successful people!  It caused me to draw a clear distinction between fame and making a difference in the world.  Lots of people are famous and some get to the point where they can’t live without the fame.  It causes a few to begin to do foolish things just to stay in the spotlight!

The Post-it benefactor does their work in private, on a personal level just to positively change the world in a simple, direct and impactful way.  It’s a type of practice we could all adopt if we wanted to become the people we hoped to be, believed we were going to be.


What kind of little messages are you leaving in your wake?

Monday, March 7, 2016

A Little Cupcake

“When I first moved in, the little girl from next door came over with a small plate and a couple of cupcakes.”  - Jon Campbell

A Little Cupcake


My friend Jon worked with me to purchase a beautiful home just over one year ago and I made it a point to check in with him the other day.  As we talked on the telephone he invited me to come and see how he’s made it his own.  I was excited to see him and how he’s settled in.

When I drove up his long, winding drive the first thing I saw was an amazing newly finished structure just to the back and left of his house.  It stretched up into the sky in front of me because it was a large two-story garage, which I knew would be filled with his current auto automobile restoration projects. It stayed true to the exterior of his home; it was a perfect match.

It was also the perfect match for Jon and his personal style.  He’s a large man with a disarming smile and as I pulled in I watched him saunter out of his built-in garage.  His movement reminded me of a large brown bear and I could see how just the sight of him could be a little scary for someone who didn’t know he’s really just a life-sized teddy.  I didn’t know it then, but I was watching an introduction to the new move-in story Jon was about to tell me.

“My neighbors are real nice.  When I first moved in, the little girl from next-door came over with a small plate and a couple of cupcakes.  She was dressed in a long flowing sundress and was the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.  I think she was a little nervous to talk to me.”  Jon said.

“When she looked up at me in a frightened manner and offered me this wonderful gift it made me tear up!”  Jon expressed as I watched his eyes well up again as he recounted the experience.

At that moment, I could see how much this small act of neighborly kindness still meant to Jon more than one year later.  It reminded me of how important even the smallest acts of kindness are.  Simple gestures that may be viewed by us as modest or insignificant are often life changing events for those who are the recipients.  They are the pure definition of the word neighbor.


Little cupcakes along with a heart felt welcome by caring neighbors are truly sweet confections.  Will you make a small neighborly gesture to change someone’s life today?