Monday, February 23, 2026

"Linking Arms" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.23.2026

“Her current water heater is completely burned up and not producing hot water.” – Ben Rowell

Linking Arms

“I meet people who need financial help with their plumbing regularly,” Ben Rowell explained to me one day, not long after we were introduced by a friend in common.

“I’d like to create a non-profit to help some of these people. They’re often elderly, have lost their spouse and are on a fixed income,” He clarified.

We’ve had many discussions following this initial conversation and have explored multiple options. But, institutional ways forward never felt right. They all seemed to siphon funds away from direct help toward more complex and expensive management. So, we’ve continued the way-forward-conversation since. Until I floated an impression recently.

“Let’s just gather in as many like-minded friends as possible and we’ll work together informally to help those we can,” I suggested not long before receiving an endorsing message from Ben.

“My plumber, Aaron, is at an elderly single lady’s home, says she’s on a very low fixed income and is being denied for promotional plans/financing. Her current water heater is completely burned up and not producing hot water. Do you have an interesting in helping us provide her a safe water heater?”

Ben, as always, had seized the initiative and leapt forward! I wasn’t surprised. He comes from parents who have lived a lifetime centered on service and caring for others.

Kevin and Ruth Rowell, retired from their professions, continue teaching through their skills of compassion and giving. While assisting them to find a new home over the past few months, they maintained their focus on helping young adult students by purposefully searching for a new home in close proximity to a college campus.

“We want to be in a position to invite students into our home for dinners. We want to be where they are, so we can help in as many ways as possible,” they continually expressed to me.

“No wonder Ben is so outwardly focused,” I found myself saying time and time again, until we found them, “their place.”

Now it was time for me to accept Ben’s invitation, with all those who would join us.

“Of course, I’ll donate!”

“Thank you, that’s very kind. Let me check with Aaron and see how she would like to proceed and touch base again soon,” Ben responded immediately and then, right after that he sent another confirming message.

“Alright, it looks like everything is in play for us to provide this elderly woman a water heater! What would be helpful for you to provide the donation, a Venmo link?”

I looked down at the payment link shining brightly on my screen. That’s when I realized It was more than a link to share funds. It was an opportunity to link arms with others wanting to freely offer goodness to others.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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Monday, February 16, 2026

"Creating Legacy" Monday's Warm Cocoa 9.16.2026

“My mother suggested that I make a wise decision.”

– Alex Franco

Creating Legacy

Alex was standing in front of his business, El Trompo Loco, at the Boardwalk Food Truck Court. It’s a place known for its wide variety of international cuisines and family-friendly atmosphere, while winning the "Best of NWA Food Truck Park" Gold Award for three years running. Alex and his family are a big part of that success since their arrival three years ago. Yet, it’s a streak that may not have begun at all, had Alex made one decision differently.

“I was about to graduate from high school and didn’t have a clue what I was going to do with my life,” he explained.

Alex’s mother Lizette, however, had been quietly saving money on her son’s behalf for many years. It was her hope that the money would open a pathway toward success for Alex. So, just before his graduation Lizette surprised him by telling him of her hopeful gift.

“I couldn’t believe it!” Alex said, as his eyes brightened with a little merriment. “The first thing that came to my mind was to go out and purchase a new Chevy Camaro! I told my mom about my plan and she patiently offered me life changing advice.”

Lizette told her son, in a very loving way, of her hopes that he would use the money to create opportunity, to make his future bright and promising. Her guidance flipped a switch in Alex’s heart and mind.

“I started thinking about what I could do,” Alex said. “I thought of everything I knew how and liked to do and said to myself. I can cook using my mother’s recipes!”

That’s when Alex began searching for a food truck fitting his budget. After an extensive search he found one, purchased it and brought it home. His mother and father stayed supportive as all three cleaned-up the truck, rebranded it and began offering delicious food to their neighbors.

“It was a little difficult at first, but I found myself wanting to get up early to plan and then cook well into the night. I loved it. That all led my family and me to look for the right location.”

Yet, they found more than location. They found a community of help. The Arkansas Food Innovation Center accepted them in to their business development program where they learned a lot about business and product development. Now they’re an award-winning business with big plans to expand into salsa distribution in local grocery stores.

“We’re working to open four more food trucks now,” Lizette said before describing the family legacy she envisions. “One day we’ll add a brick and mortar restaurant to go along with our bottled salsas and marinades!”

And tomorrow? That legacy will be receiving a strong endorsement when the entire track team from Iowa State University arrives on their bus for their reservation to dine at El Trompo Loco for dinner after a big competition.

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Monday, February 9, 2026

"Let the Present In" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.9.2026

"Maybe it isn’t about forgetting the past.” – One friend to another

Let the Present In

The two friends had just patched things up after their very public argument. Both of them could be characterized as men, but they were both really just on the cusp of being so, since they still lacked seasoning; the process of acquiring maturity, wisdom, and competence through wide-ranging life experience, and time.

“I know I get caught up in being afraid,” Mica explained to his friend, a few days after their argument, while sitting on his porch. “When that happens, I seem to automatically wreak some chaos. I guess thanks how I distract myself from fear.”

Garr sat listening carefully as Mica explained himself, while recognizing the opening for his own apology.

“I’m sorry too,” he said sincerely. “I seem to always be living in the past, no matter how hard I try to forget it!”

The two of them were more alike than they had ever suspected! They were realizing, for the very first time, that they were facing a common antagonist. A painful past. Both of the young men had lost their core families at a young age.

Mica’s loss of his mother came when he was about eleven years old. Since then he had faced a life of survival. He was on his own and had a hard time forming friendships. He trusted no one!

Garr trusted no one either. He was the “black sheep” of his family, different than all of them; a fact emphasized by the memorable sight of his father becoming so angry with him that he got in his vehicle and flew away. Garr could only stand and watch as he was left standing alone in an unfamiliar and mostly strange part of the planet. He was about sixteen when that happened. It was a past that shaped his isolated view of the world every single day.

“Perhaps,” Garr said as he looked at his only and newly trusted friend. “Maybe it isn’t about forgetting the past. Perhaps the trick is not to forget the past, but to remember it.”

Mica sat there with surprise racing across his face as he heard Garr say that. After all, they had just discovered that they were both trapped in their past, trauma. But, their unfamiliar, shared moment of trust allowed him to hold his tongue and wait for Garr to finish.

“Perhaps the trick is not to forget the past, but to remember it, while allowing the present in.”

That’s when both friends sat there, quietly together, allowing their trust of each other to settle in. To become comfortable, like a well-worn, soft pair of jeans. Letting the present in.

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Monday, February 2, 2026

"Common Ground" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.2.2026

"What began in confrontation ended with in a brotherly embrace.” - Daniel Swede

Common Ground

In the end, the two men embraced as their differences had been transformed into commonality. But their encounter did not begin on such friendly ground.

Daniel was looking forward to gathering with associates and friends last Thursday. The get-together had been planned to occur a couple of days earlier, but had been pushed-out as a result of the unusually icy, cold weather.

“I think we all were suffering from a little cabin fever,” Daniel said, just before walking into the designated ‘watering hole.’”

There was a sparkle in his eye as he pulled the door open, seeing friends he hadn’t seen for a few weeks. His confidence was overflowing as he spotted Grace and her soft gray eyes. Those eyes were her “tell.” They told everyone she happened upon how kind she was. The evening was beginning just as he had hoped.

That same hope blossomed as he glanced across the room to see other friends sitting at a long, rectangular table. So, he skipped (well, sort of for a man of his age) over to the table to greet them warmly, conversing as he sat with them.

“What do you think of the news?” Eric asked.

“I was with friends,” Daniel said. “So, I didn’t worry about my answer to that seemingly harmless question. I have to tell you I was taken aback by Eric’s vehement reaction to my answer. I had never seen him so hostile.”

Eric’s response was instant. “How could anyone be stupid enough to think that!”

Eric raged in Daniel’s face for a time. So much so that Daniel’s pleasant hopes for his much anticipated, warm cordial evening with friends seemed to be dashed. And, to his credit, he sat patiently, calmly, listening to Eric.

Everyone else at the table tuned out because of the singularly, heated exchange. Their body language ensued separation from the onslaught. Daniel, partly due to his being the one assailed, stayed both absorbed and shielded.

He was absorbing the information coming rapidly at him while searching for commonality. He had been in such confrontations before and felt confident that his listening skills would guide him forward toward a positive outcome for everyone.

“I knew a little bit about Eric and could tell he was passionate about being good to other people. After all, I knew he had served in special forces, because he wanted to protect others. That knowledge was confirmed quite quickly as I listened to what he was saying. So, I began agreeing with his, our common, caring nature. That allowed Eric to recognize the common ground we were standing on!”

As a result, the evening quickly got back on track and the whole table of people were once again actively engaged in friendly, enlivened camaraderie.

“What began in confrontation ended with in a brotherly embrace,” Daniel said gratefully.

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Monday, January 26, 2026

"Small and Important," Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.26.2026

"Sometimes purpose is something small and personal.” – Twila Newton

Small and Important

“The teacher is now the student,” I thought as Twila was speaking with seemingly every eye in the room focused on her. There were lots of eyes in the room.

The room was filled with adult students. Every one attending was there to gain a new understanding of the power of purpose. They came into the class seeking a new, or expanded understanding of how to capture and internalize a grand personal purpose.

“Sometimes when you and I see the immensity of the universe and then look in the mirror it’s easy to become overwhelmed by our own smallness,” the presenter said, while showing a photo of the vastness and grandeur of stars and planets gloried in space.

“But,” the presenter continued, “each individual can find a large personal purpose. A purpose that can give meaning, depth and an inner drive toward exceptional achievement.” There was a pause then, to allow a dramatic absorption of that theory.

That’s when Twila, an older, worn looking woman, hesitantly allowed her fingers to point toward the ceiling, pulling her right arm up, as if attached to uncertain puppet master’s string.

“I don’t think purpose has to be large and grand,” she said in a quavering voice.

Those words seemed to be a sharp pin, purposely positioned to pierce an invisible balloon holding air in the room. Because, all of the air seemingly began to leave the room. Silence ensued.

The presenter relaxed. Then he settled on the edge of a table near the podium, where he sat. His eyes were focused on Twila. His face immediately morphed into a genteel caring sponge. He was listening, considering.

“I came into a meeting one time,” Twila continued. “There was a new woman there. I could tell she was feeling cautious. So, I went up to her and introduced myself saying, you know, I hadn’t come to a meeting like this for about fifty years; until last fall. I know what it’s like to take a big step into the unknown!”

She went on to explain that after that small interchange the new woman relaxed and enjoyed being there. It allowed her to forget that she the feeling of being alone.

“When that meeting ended,” Twila said with emotion choking, no emphasizing, her words. “That same woman came up to me with tears flowing as she hugged me with gratitude for being able to embrace the finding of a new friend.”

Then she finished her point. “The experience taught me that small purpose is often the most important purpose a person and find. Sometimes purpose is something small and personal.”

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Monday, January 19, 2026

"Origin Story" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.19.2026

"Connection, influence, and real leadership begin when you tell your story authentically.” – John Bates

Origin Story

“Connection, influence, and real leadership begin when you tell your story authentically,” John said with hawk-like intent.

John didn’t stop there. He told a story himself to make his point stick. After all, he also teaches that every story told should make a point.

“Let me tell you how much we all love stories! We spend hours and hours listening to and watching stories. But, when we’re watching a movie and someone you know calls, you touch pause on the movie share in their story! That alone shows you how important the story-connection between people is,” John illustrated.

Telling a story is the very best way for us to remember something. We may not remember the entire story word for word, but we’ll remember the point of the story, if not forever, for a very long time. I can still travel to the past in a flash, to the flicker of a dancing camp fire, to be with a couple of my buddies, to relive stories forged then and there again.

I can see Kevin Young’s matted, camp fire smoked hair, cradled by his interlaced hands behind his head. I see the stars, bright in the dark sky above. One star was moving!

Kevin comments and asks, “look at that one. It’s moving! What’s up with that?”

“It’s a satellite,” I respond.

“Is that via satellite?”

My ears are tickled again by remembered-laughter as I tell him that “via satellite” means “transmitted by satellite” to your TV. At that we laugh and laugh together for a long time before settling into our sleeping bags to ward-off the dropping temperatures of the night. We were friends for years prior to that evening, but our shared experience and that story cemented our bond for our lifetime. People want and need a human such connection.

It is the human connection that allows us to mirror each other as we experience stories. We mirror facial expressions, movements and emotions! We believe the stories that the teller believes! So, give others something wonderful to mirror. How do you do that?

Begin with a story about your own origin. Tell it to others when they ask about you. Do it by purposefully thinking about who you’re talking to and what you want them to know about you.

What is it that makes you, well, you? What is it that one moment that caused you to begin to write the story of the life you’ve been living?

John says, “when you share your origin story you open space for others to share their stories with you as well. It will create deeper trust and relationships with all people. We share stories because they have an impact on others!”

Connection, influence, and real leadership do indeed begin when you tell your own story authentically. We can’t wait to hear your story!

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Monday, January 12, 2026

"Fish Eye" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.12.2026

"If we dynamically look toward what nourishes us, we’ll be endowed to vigorously pursue it” – Katie Buttle

Fish Eye

“For some reason my daughter decided to get fish for a pet,” Katie said, before diving deeper. “I’m a ‘dog-person’ so the idea that fish could be a great pet was a bit befuddling.

Sometimes, though, moments of befuddlement open new currents of insight. Such opportunities are almost always tickling bubbles of unexpected surprise. And, Katie’s almost daily interaction with her daughter’s pet fish unpredictably prompted her toward a very unexpected, well, new-sight she calls seeing through “fish eyes.”

“I go into my daughter’s room regularly,” she explained. “I’m in there as part of everyday life. You know, putting away freshly laundered clothes, or pushing a vacuum cleaner over the carpet. It took me a while but I began to notice something very interesting about the fish swimming around in that tank.”

There is a small container of fish food sitting on top of the aquarium. It’s there as a reminder to feed those pet fish. After all, teenagers are often focused on lots of activities and school work. An active, busy life makes it easy to forget quietly swimming fish, gliding through temperature controlled, mechanically generated oxygenated water!

“The fish live in a fully controlled environment,” Katie continued. “Everything is provided for them. They don’t get to control anything, except for two things!”

Katie knew one of those fish-controlled actions naturally. The fish can decide if they want to eat the food given to them. But, it took her quite a bit of observation to discover the second thing the fish fully control. Where they look.

“After walking past the aquarium lots of times, I began to notice that the fish would swim toward the front glass and intently watch me! At first, I thought I was just imagining it. But, I began to go into the room just to test them. I was curious to know if those fish eyes were really tracking my movements,” She elucidated. “They were! I was so happy to know that I wasn’t delusional!”

The fish had learned that their food appeared, was delivered, when a human walked up to their tank. So, it didn’t take them long before they began to put the bubble hazed pieces together. They would see a person approach, believe that food would be provided and then place themselves into a sustenance-seizing position.

“Fish eyes taught me the importance of having a dynamic focus! I’ve been taught this principle for a lifetime, but its importance has never been as impactful until viewed through fish eyes. If we dynamically look toward what nourishes us, we’ll be endowed to vigorously pursue it for our own benefit,” Katie said of what she’s learned from those unexpected, insightful, following fish eyes.

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Monday, January 5, 2026

"In From the Cold" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.5.2026

"We’ve set up a warming center in my church” – Tommy Smith

In from the Cold

In the very early morning of a cold, cold day, Tommy Smith walked into the gym all bundled. That was a big change from his normal dress of a t-shirt and athletic shorts.

“Wow! It’s cold out there,” Tommy said as he walked through the door from the anteroom. “This cold and dark makes it hard for me to get up and work out this early!”

The other eight eyes walking into the room glanced at him in agreement. It was clear that winter had arrived and everyone in the little gym was grateful to be able to come in from the cold. Even if it was for the purpose of sweating for an hour, or more. Talk of the weather was a great way to break the ice hampering conversation at 4:45 a.m. and the discussion of the impactful temperature continued between the athletic friends.

“We’ve set up a warming center at my church,” Tommy continued. “We’re in the process of getting volunteers to greet and serve those seeking shelter; coming in from the cold. Once we have enough volunteers we’ll assign shifts to make sure we have people there to help at all hours.”

“This would be the perfect shift for you to take,” one buddy in the room responded. “After all, this time is most difficult for many and it wouldn’t be even be noticeable to you. You’re here every morning with us already!”

“Right? Most volunteers won’t want the 4:00 a.m. shift,” Tommy agreed. “But, I’ll fill in where ever I’m needed. It’s cold out there!”

All of the heads in the gym were bobbing up and down, like little yellow, rubber duckies floating on an agitated pond. And, those same heads were bobbing up and down once again as the workout had finished and everyone in the room was layering on hats, gloves, pants, and coats as if decorating a layered birthday cake. Such decoration against the cold took a lot of preparation.

The cold stayed the entire day. It continued through the night and into the wee hours of the next morning, when all of the buddies hit the gym again. Well, that isn’t exactly accurate. One of the guys was absent. Tommy!

He wasn’t there when the guys came in from the cold again and began removing the thick frosting protecting them from extreme temperatures. Their heads were bobbing up and down again as one of them spoke up.

“Tommy’s missing because he’s likely helping others come in from the cold. He’s surely in his church’s warming center,” he said. “He’d never say anything, because helping others isn’t something he ever takes credit for.”

This time, there were mumbles of agreement confirming Tommy’s character and those mumbles broke the ice again because Randy said, “let’s get going! It ain’t going to happen by itself!”

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Monday, December 29, 2025

"On the Inside" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.29.2025

"I had a strong feeling." – Randy Cummins

On the Inside

“I wanted to give you a call,” Randy said in an unusually subdued tone. “I wanted you to know.”

Randy was on his way home from the hospital. He had been in the hospital for a few days after suffering a considerable heart attack and receiving a subsequent surgery to restore blood flow. It was just like him to think about others! It is his natural instinct and practice, yet I was about to learn something more profound about him. Randy is led from the inside, out.

“I had a strong feeling,” he said as he began to explicate.

He had been deeply touched by the example and kindness of one particular family many years ago. They had come to his aid when his first daughter was born.

“They opened their hearts and home to us when we really needed help,” he continued. “They didn’t know us well at the time. All they knew was that we needed help. So, they assisted us without asking anything in return.”

Randy went on to say that the strong feelings he was having had created an internal, profound urgency. He was driven by the importance of expressing gratitude to this decades-old difference making family. To express the feelings of his heart, to let them know that even after many years their kindness was still impacting him. And, at the same time, he had another feeling impressing on him.

“Almost concurrently, earlier in the day, I sat with my wife and we discussed deeply meaningful things,” Randy continued. “I just thought it was an important thing to do at the moment. It wasn’t long after I had finished that I was sitting at my desk.”

Randy went to get up from his desk, after sending the message expressing his gratitude and collapsed. His son came running in to help him, followed closely by his wife. He told them he thought he’d be okay. Yet, Randy’s son immediately called for help and got him to the hospital. It was a good thing he did!

Once in the hospital Randy was rushed into life saving surgery. His call to me came two days later as he was being driven home.

“You somehow knew inside that something major was about to happen. It was a gift to be willing to listen on the inside,” I said with reverence.

“The feelings were strongly influential and I’m glad I listened,” Randy said in reply. “Because sometimes timing is indeed everything and the chance to listen ends. Listen on the inside.”

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Monday, December 22, 2025

"By Addition" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.22.2025

Twenty-seven countries, one chosen citizenship.

By Addition

“All rise!”

Everyone in one particular District Court of the United States stood as the judge walked into the courtroom. She was the last person to come into an already sardine-packed-room. To say there were a lot of people there is an understatement as another close by room was also filled with interested parties.

Every person was interested in being there for one or two reasons in common. The first reason was for those who had come to take their own, initial oath of U.S. citizenship. The second reason was to watch a loved-one attain their long hoped for U.S. citizenship. There were smiles all around.

The judge was also smiling as she opened the proceeding before saying, “Let’s go around the room and have each hopeful applicant tell us their name and what nation they’re from. Each candidate then took a turn to stand, say their name and state their current nationality. There were men and women with variety of age and one common hope and sense of accomplishment, even amongst huge personal and national diversity.

“United Kingdom,” “Bhutan,” “Mexico,” “Nepal,” “Canada,” “Sweden,” “Honduras,” “Russia.” The count went on until there were twenty-seven countries having been called out. At the end, the judge spoke about strength in diversity.

“We used to speak about American as a ‘melting-pot,” she said. “But, I think of our joining together a little differently. I like to think of each person who becomes a citizen as adding their uniqueness to our whole. It is an addition that allows our nation to become continually better.”

Then, she asked every applicant to stand, raise their right arm to the square and take the oath of citizenship. She led the oath with strength and pride. When completed, the court clerk took the a newly minted, personalized certificate of citizenship and presented it to each new citizen before the culmination of the ceremony.

“I invite everyone to stand to face the flag,” the judge announced. “Please repeat the pledge of allegiance.”

The already seasoned attendees stood and put their right hands over their heart as the judge started and they participated, “I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”

Yet what is commonplace for one is often new for another. Some of the new citizens did know the tradition with exactness. Some struggled with the placement of their hand over their heart, while others whose English was a newer language, watched the lip movement of the judge carefully. And, everyone participated with sincerity and commitment.

Because, citizenship is a commitment to a nation as well as to each other. It is a pledge to give our nation and our fellows our very best. All rise!

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Monday, December 15, 2025

"Granddad" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.15.2025

"I’m busy getting a new home finished for my coming grandbaby.” – Darrell Gibby

Granddad

“I’m busy getting a new home finished for my coming grandbaby.” Darrell said over the phone, “The baby is coming soon and we’re close to getting a new home built in time for the arrival.

Darrell is not going to be living in the house. But, his son and wife and their other two young children will be living there. They’ve all been working together to finish the construction for their growing family. They started building their new home a little over one year ago and have been doing almost all of the construction themselves. So, finding time to fling a hammer or wield other tools has been challenging since both father and grandfather have demanding careers.

Some grandparents would simply say they’re too busy, too old or too tired to throw themselves into such a large project. But not this Granddad! And, he is also busier than many others. He practices law, having his own firm, helps to care for aging parents and works as a volunteer, donating countless hours each week in his community. It is almost as if he is a “constructive tornado”! He does so much, one might be tempted to think of him as a “unicorn granddad.” Yet, if he is a mythical unicorn granddad he’s not the only one.

I sent a message to my friend Rob Surom two days ago asking if I could come over to visit. He’s “retired.” I was surprised to receive his unexpected response.

“It would have to be after 2 p.m. today,” he responded before I asked to come over at 4 p.m. that afternoon. But my schedule unexpectedly cleared so I sent a follow up request asking if I could come a little earlier. That’s when I received another text from him saying, “We’re home. You can come now.”

I wondered who the “we” was referring to as I knew his wife was working busily at the Children’s Hospital. My question was answered when I was invited into his home to find a baby girl held in this former naval aviator’s arms.

“I spend my days watching my grandkids,” Rob said with his disarming smile.

“Granddad,” I said to myself as Rob’s granddaughter looked at me and began to cry!

Rob immediately comforted her and in no time at all her tears were gone and her eyes were again a bright cerulean blue. Those cute eyes weren’t the only blue I saw after spending time with Rob and Darrell.

I saw a promising blue sky ahead for their grandchildren and I understood the use of “grand” as a precursor to the term grandfather and grandad!

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Monday, December 8, 2025

"Bryan's Recipe" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.8.2025

"It all starts with the dough.” – Bryan Brandon

Bryan’s Recipe

I was sitting across a table from Chef Tyler Rogers. He’d been crafting a new menu over the past year. One focused on local food products and producers. After explaining the basis of his menu, he brought out a couple of dishes for tasting.

The first dish, smoked shrimp with smoked pimento cheese, came with a beautiful slice of sourdough bread. When I tasted these in combination my eyes rolled back into my head. It was sublime! I had never tasted such layered, complimentary flavors. And, it was anchored solidly by the bread.

“This bread is amazing,” I said, before asking, “Did you make this bread in-house?”

“No,” Chef Rogers answered. “We get it here locally from Ozark Natural Breads.”

I made a mental note of that, excitedly thinking that, perhaps I would be able to purchase some of this crusty, tasteful bread to eat at home. But alas, my hopes were quickly quashed when Chef Rogers went on to tell me that the bread was only available on a wholesale basis. Still, I never gave up hope and before long I thrilled at the sight of Ozark Natural Breads in a farmer’s market.

That’s where I met company owner, master baker and artisan Bryan Brandon. Since then we’ve become friends and he’s been kind enough to teach me a little about what makes his offerings so delectable.

“It’s all about the dough,” Bryan told me in his bakery yesterday.

His sourdough starter began twenty-two years ago. Since then he added a cooling room to make it more vigorous. And, he’s worked to become better at his craft every day since he received his Bachelor’s Degree from the American Institute of Baking, completed an apprenticeship in a French bakery near Normandy and purchased the bakery from his parents. As a result, he’s an extraordinary artisan baker.

As an artisan baker he is constantly experimenting. He’s always working to improve his product and offerings. And he showed me his diversity by taking me on a little field trip to one of his latest ventures, Wicked Wood Fired Pizza.

It’s a great little shop anchored by a colorful, large wood fired pizza oven, highlighting the side of his small restaurant. When I tasted his pizza, it filled my mouth with the flavor of red oak smoked sour dough!

When I pointed that out, Bryan looked at me with his big, wide, welcoming smile and said, “It’s all about the dough.”

That’s when I agreed, “Yes! A good, happy life requires a great base enhanced by constant experimentation and adaption. Then, when you throw in additional quality ingredients such as spice and diverse toppings, you have Bryan’s recipe for pure joy!

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Monday, December 1, 2025

"Harmony" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.1.2025

"A Marshallese Man Singing.”

Harmony

The vestibule of the large building was filled with people. I was one of them and I didn’t know any of them sitting, waiting there with me. I didn’t expect to as I was there as a favor for a friend. Such situations can be stressful! You know, sitting with strangers surrounding you in a strange place. Waiting!

I’ve never been particularly good at waiting. Not in a doctor’s office (one of the reasons I rarely see one), not in airports, and now that I’m thinking about it as a reflection, I’ve come to realize that it is clearly not something I like to do, period! But, in this case I was happier to do so because I was helping someone important to me. As fate would have it, it turns out though, that there was another reason to like waiting on this one occasion.

That reason turned out to be an old man, with silver hair, a color matching mustache, and just between caramel-cocoa-bean colored skin. He wasn’t the only one with similar features with me in that lobby last week. Most of the others waiting with me were also Marshallese as it turns out. I was the odd person in the hotchpotch assembly of waiters there. Yet, this man stood out from all others waiting with us there.

He stood out because of, what appeared to be one of his personal and natural traits. He was gently, quietly singing traditional Marshallese songs. His tones were sweet, heartfelt and soothing. So much so that the bothered nature of my waiting-disorder quickly melted away. The entire waiting room had become peaceful because of him. All of the faces around the room reflected his invited contentment. Each face matched my own. Suddenly, sitting with strangers was replaced with commonality.

We had a common feeling of serenity just because one person in the room, the “singing man” was able to remove cultural differences and angst by gifting us with what could be thought of as a lullaby. Yet, it was a serenade that too quickly ended.

The big, double doors just to my left abruptly opened. Those doors ushered in the end of singing man’s induced trance. His voice was stilled and I was startled to know that our waiting had too soon ended. I was sad when the music of the moment had ceased. So, when the musical man walked near me I came up to him.

“Your singing is beautiful,” I said in gratitude with an outstretched hand of friendship.

He accepted my hand and my thanks with his warm caramel eyes gifting me amity in return. Or was his gift harmony?

Yes. The singing man’s gift is harmony!

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Monday, November 24, 2025

"Remembering" Monday's Warm Cocoa 11.24.2025

"Remember your why.” – Lucas Treat

Remembering

Every Wednesday, 1 Million Cups provides a supportive, inclusive space for entrepreneurs and their communities to gather and connect; where they can work through business challenges and identify opportunities. During “Cups” people discover business solutions and engage with their local community. They’ve done so since the Ewing Marion Kauffman Foundation developed and began the 1 Million Cups network across America in 2012.

Since then participants have worked toward economic stability, mobility, and prosperity together in community. By working together, participants champion ideas and support solutions designed to improve education, boost entrepreneurship, and help communities and individuals thrive. It also opens the way for personal, lasting friendships to form.

Lucas Treat is the perfect example of such business-to-friendship success. He began attending 1 Million Cups as a small business owner. He started a small, on-line camera resale company about five years ago and presented his fledgling company and concept on one Wednesday morning, so he could receive feedback and ideas as to how to make his company more successful.

After that, he volunteered to video broadcast his local chapter meeting on Facebook, so those not able to attend in person could still benefit and participate virtually. Today, he continues to volunteer as a member of his local organizing team. He is a faithful attendee, participant, friend to many, and encourager to the one.

Being an encourager to the one means he has formed individual friendships within the 1 Million Cups community over several years and he seeks to make a personal connection with those friends each week.

“How are things going?” Lucas said as he purposefully approached one such friend after last week’s meeting had ended.

“It’s going ok,” his friend replied, in a voice weighed down with worry and filled with angst.

That worry and angst was not missed nor overlooked by Lucas. After all, one of the traits that makes Lucas successful in his business is the same trait that allows him to form successful, long-term friendships. He focuses on the people he lives and works with.

Lucas takes the time to learn about the people surrounding him. He practices active friendship. He does so in a friendly, interested manner. Those that know him know he cares about the details of their lives. This interaction was not an exception.

“Do you remember the reason you decided to do the work you’re doing?” Lucas responded with his characteristic, disarming smile. “Remember your why,” He continued.

His smile was absorbed by his friend, as was his short, poignant advice.

“Thanks Lucas,” the friend said. “I’m going to spend some time remembering.”

Then the friend asked Lucas how his wife and toddler were doing. Because, he reciprocally, genuinely cares about Lucas. I could see that in his response. I could also see its impact on Lucas.

The impact and skill of remembering goes beyond one person and one moment. It is a vital part of creating and maintaining continuous joy, as well as successful relationships.

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Monday, November 17, 2025

Internal Drive, Monday's Warm Cocoa, 17 November 2025

“She and her example created my internal drive!” – Carol Silva Moralez

Internal Drive

“Excellerate Foundation and Walton Family Foundation joined leaders from local academic institutions and major employers to connect the region's untapped workforce to skilled positions in high demand industries,” Carol Silva Moralez said as she began to talk about the non-profit she leads.

The Upskill NWA mission is to connect under-employed and under-represented non-traditional students with their dream careers. They provide access to education, offer coaching and mentoring to navigate the educational system, connect individuals with essential “wrap-around services,” and ultimately help them to secure higher-wage jobs with healthcare partners. They change lives!

Since 2022, 373 people have enrolled and 88% percent of enrollees and stayed in the program. 87 participants have graduated since 2022 and 90% of graduates have been placed with employers. But, perhaps the most impressive program result is that graduates have secured 132% percent increase in household income!

Carol’s presentation had ignited inspiration, causing me to wondered after her personal path and its impact on this remarkable professional and community success. So, I sought to have a quiet, personal conversation with her following her formal presentation.

“You seem to have a very personal connection with your work,” I offered.

“Yes,” Carol responded. “For much of my life my mother was single and struggling to provide for us. I watched as she studied each night after a long day of work. Then, I watched her get a new position as a result!”

She went on to say that her mother’s hard work set a valuable example for her and when her mom got that new job, as a result of her extended effort at night, it was a major milestone for the whole family. But, that wasn’t the end of what her mother wrote on Carol’s internal drive.

“My mom kept working to improve her skills,” Carol said with tears starting to build in her eyes. “I watched her walk across the stage to get her bachelor’s degree when she was fifty-five!”

By this time Carol’s tears were running down her face as she re-lived this momentous life-changing experience.

“You’d think that was the biggest moment I shared with my mom, but it isn’t. She never stopped guiding me. She knew me better than anyone. She knew me better than I knew myself.”

Carol’s mom kept telling her she was a teacher every time Carol shared a conquered educational or professional milestone with her.

“I graduated from college. I got my first management position with a major global business. Then, I was hired to run a whole division at that corporation. My mother was proud of me, but she kept saying she knew I was a teacher and she could not be prouder,” Carol explained.

“When I received this position as CEO at Upskill, I knew that this is the teaching and mentoring my mother knew I was meant to do. Even though my mother is no longer with us, I know she’d tell me this is my purpose! After all, she and her example created my internal drive!”

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Monday, November 10, 2025

Goodness Currents, Monday's Warm Cocoa, 1.10.2025

“I just feel like I’m working really hard and nothing is happening.”

Goodness Currents

The conversation started on the telephone. It lasted for more than an hour. I could hear the worry and frustration. I could also feel her pain as my friend described the background of circumstances she faced.

After we ended the call, to my surprise, the conversation shifted to text.

“Do you have some have some time?”

I responded with a quick, “yes.”

Her next text asked, “You don’t think I’m doing a terrible job, do you?”

“No! I think you’re doing a great job! You have two great kids. They’re happy and health and you’re well respected professionally,” I typed back.

Then her fingers stroked, “I just feel like I’m working really hard and nothing is happening.”

“That’s the way life is. It is, often, as if you’re fighting to stay above water and not making progress. Then, suddenly you find yourself surprised, almost magically, by being pushed along in a stream of amazing progress. When this happens it’s as if you had nothing to do with it. But you do! You’re doing very well. Just keep up doing the small things every day and you’ll find real progress when you least expect it,” were the words tapped by my fingers in response.

When my fingers came to a rest I thought, “how I wish I understood these seemingly invisible currents of life.”

Even though I don’t fully understand them and can’t see these currents with my eyes, or map them on a piece of paper or computer, I see the results of their existence regularly. I see their impact along my own path as well as on the path of others. Just as in the life of this comfort-seeking-friend.

Life currents seemingly serve as a principal pathway of exchange both individually as well as with groups of people and even cultures. And, these currents are often strongly constrained by individual decisions and actions. They can even be noticeably obstructed when a large group of people decide to alter their offered goodness. Such obstructions show up throughout the history of our world. I’m sure if you take a moment you’ll be able to identify monumentally negative shifts of these currents locally and globally.

Counter balancing positive shifts are often more difficult to identify. But, if you reflect within you’ll be able to identify helping currents throughout your own history. Once recognize them and keep practicing, you’ll find yourself being able to actually feel life’s invisible, helping current pulling you along.

Even when life is not going well at a moment, the practice of identifying goodness currents will provide you with reassurance of their continuous, helping hand. That assurance will propel you along with a knowledge that goodness is on its way.

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Monday, November 3, 2025

Super Hero Help, Monday's Warm Cocoa 11.3.2025

“My wife called me asking for help.” – Chris Hobgood

Super Hero Help

Chris Hobgood just got new neighbors. They’re so new that he and his family don’t really know them yet. They simply haven’t had enough time to get to know them since they recently moved in. But, that didn’t stop them from being great neighbors a couple of days prior to Halloween.

“We’re going to dress as ‘Scooby-Doo Where Are You!’ characters,” Chris said as he described how members of his family, including their three dogs, were going to dress to impersonate characters from the beloved late-sixties and onward cartoon series. The series features a group of “kids” who solve mysteries while helping others.

“Oh, and did I tell you what happened a couple of days ago?” Chris nonchalantly asked, as if foreshadowing his Halloween character “Fred.”

“My wife called asking for help,” Chris recalled, while describing that call received in the middle of the afternoon.

She was calling because she heard a distressed child crying outside, next door.

“Some people would do nothing, because they didn’t know the child,” Chris continued. “But this small six-year-old girl needed someone to offer her comfort and my wife stepped up immediately.”

Chris put his business on hold and began his drive home so he and his wife could begin to solve “the mystery of the crying child.”

Upon his arrival he found the little girl enjoying treats and adoring dogs. All three of his dogs had surrounded the girl and were offering her wagging tails and comforting kisses. No wonder the dogs had been selected to be members of the family’s Scooby-doo cast for Halloween!

Chris and his wife enlisted a few other friends to come to the rescue as well. They’ve developed deep relationships with members of their community. Even close friends who are local police officers came to help, just because, “that’s what neighbors are for.”

As a result of caring neighbors and dogs the mystery was solved quickly. The girl’s teen-aged sister had simply been delayed at school and was relieved to see all of the support their new neighbors had given her young sibling. They’re not living amongst strangers anymore!

They moved into a neighborhood filled with superheroes. And, last night those heroes dawned their costumes and alter-egos in public. Alter-egos are generally fictional personas or characters used by an author, artist, or public figure to speak for them or represent a hidden side. This is most common when discussing superheroes. But not here in this neighborhood.

The Hobgoods and their neighbors are the real deal! They offer superhero help, disguised as regular people and celebrate their character in costume one night each year.

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Monday, October 27, 2025

Unintended Loneliness, Monday's Warm Cocoa, 10.27.2025

"Giving advice to others is giving a piece of yourself to them.” – John Hill

Unintentional Loneliness

I was sitting in a large auditorium listening to a presentation by John Hill, Vice President of story at Whop. There were quite a few people in the auditorium, yet I was sitting alone on one row. I was also the only attendee over twenty-five years of age. It’s interesting how a person can feel lonely when surrounded by lots of other people!

As a result of this feeling, I thought about the day before, when I was sitting at the kitchen table of a ninety-one-year-old friend.

“Not one person called or visited me yesterday,” he said, unable to hide the lonely disappointment in his voice.

He lives in a large, mountain property with a lot of land. He’s alone now. His wife recently passed away. Of this he says, “my wife left me.” He has some family members living in the same state, but they’re at a distance, making it difficult to be with him daily. I peered at him.

He seemed to be a small boat, drifting on a huge, once peaceful ocean, turned turbulent. He was rudderless.

“What would you like to do with your life now?” I asked. “What are you looking forward to?”

After all, my friend is physically and mentally healthy. I look at him with wonder, hoping I can fare so well at his age.

“Giving advice to others is giving a piece of yourself to them,” John Hill said, bringing me back to the large auditorium. “The foundation for all strong relationships is face-to-face communication. Video telephone conversations would be next best. The weakest relationship builders are email and text.” He continued, causing me to think of Melissa Kirsch’s given advice.

“We’re all connected, related, dependent on one another, but of course we forget this all the time,” Melissa Kirsch teaches. “We forget that every action we take has a whole cascade of unintended consequences. And so often we feel separate, lonely, disconnected.”

She coaches, “One way to challenge that feeling is to start with one small thing. It may seem a little corny at first, but it works.”

It may seem a little corny for me to feel lonely in a mostly filled auditorium as well. Especially when it allowed me to feel emphatically-connected to my lonely friend. And, John Hill was standing in front of everyone, seemingly speaking directly to me.

“Face-to-face, give a piece of yourself.”

At the end, I walked away vowing to give more pieces of myself to my aged friend, as well as to others who may be unintentionally lonely. Because small face-to-face visits create a cascade of beneficial personal connection, leading to other positive consequences, that help end unintentional loneliness.

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Monday, October 20, 2025

Finding Winning Habits, Monday's Warm Cocoa, 10.20.2025

“I never know what I’m going to find, once I dig into a problem?” – Mark Sebastion

Finding Winning Habits

Looking at Mark Sebastion sitting on top of the fireplace mantel, with the exposed wall behind him, caused me to recall words once spoken by Riley Jensen on another occasion.

“When I’d come home after having a bad day my mother would say, ‘did you really have a bad day, or did you have a bad five minutes?’ Then, she’d follow that up with, ‘are you going to enjoy the rest of the day, or are you going to continue to milk this and pout?’”

Difficult circumstances, such as having a specialized contractor come into your home saying, “I never know what I’m going to find, once I dig into a problem,” and then watching him actually “dig in” by tearing walls, a stone chimney and a large section of roof off could easily be classified as having a bad day; likely turning into a bad week and perhaps, even a bad month or two! It could even cause a person to say, “I’m feeling very picked on!”

Every one of us face stretching-trials, some harder and some less traumatic, and the way a person habitually thinks, while in the throes of “digging in” will make all the difference.

In speaking and coaching about how to face adversity Nick Sabin said, “When my team would lose I’d say to the team, we needed to lose! Because, we needed to learn from the things we’re not doing to create the habits we needed to have to play winning football on a consistent basis.”

Could everyday happiness be enhanced by developing a mental habit of running toward problems and digging into them so you can discover things you’re not doing? Will this process and practice work as a creative way to develop needed new habits so you can enjoy a “winning” attitude and life? And, is there one simple, additional habit that will allow you to embrace daily positivity and success?

Hopefully, each one of us will recognize and embrace the counsel of Riley Jensen’s mother. “Did you really have a bad day or did you have a bad five minutes? Are you going to enjoy the rest of your day, or are you going to milk this and pout?”

Yes. The walls, chimney and roof of your home may be in the process of being demolished! And, you can recognize the in-process-resolution of the once hidden issues afflicting you, see that you can embrace new ways of acting and move forward to win in your life on a more consistent basis.

Finding and embracing winning habits is often disguised as unwanted adversity and loss. And, you never know what you’ll find!

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Monday, October 13, 2025

"Looking Back Laugh" Monday's Warm Cocoa 10.13.2025

"You’ll be able to look back on this in a year and laugh.” – Curtis Bledsoe

Looking Back Laugh

“I’ve found that when I’m going through something; you know, when nothing is coming out the way it’s supposed to, I ask myself a question,” Curtis said as he spoke with a frustrated homeowner.

Curtis had stepped up to assist this distraught customer about five days before this current telephone interaction. During a two-month construction ordeal a previous supplier had sent defective product to this customer time after time. They had sent the same flawed item six times! Finally, the exasperated customer decided to cut their losses and seek help from Curtis and his distribution company. He was about to receive more than a needed plumbing part.

“That’s when I ask, what am I supposed to be learning from this?” Curtis continued; offering enlightened guidance to his customer over the phone.

The customer quietly listened as Curtis spoke. His want to lash out had been extinguished as if water poured over active flames in a smoldering fire pit.

“That’s genius advice,” the customer said, before he listened again, hoping for more sagacious words to be offered from Curtis.

“I haven’t had a difficult experience that I couldn’t look back on and laugh at, yet. And, I’ve had to deal with some very hard experiences in my fifty-five years,” Curtis said with a twinkle spreading from his eyes into and through his voice.

His customer instantly began to reflect on his past experiences. He began to chuckle as he recalled many such instances that had, at the time, been seemingly traumatic. In hindsight he had been able to discover inconceivable humor from the occurrence. Curtis’ words were ringing in his ears as truth!

“As soon as I learned to take a step back and learn from the lesson being offered, my whole experience around difficulties changed,” Curtis expressed. “I don’t look forward to going through hard things and times, but I’ve begun to look forward to laughing about them later! Knowing that humor is on its way brightens my day and my future at the same time.”

The customer’s day had been brightened as a result of this timely display of empathy. He could already see that this current, horrible ordeal would soon reveal itself as a looking-back-laugh in the near future. This was made possible because Curtis took a moment to offer relatable compassion along with quality plumbing parts.

Curtis delivered the needed part the next day and as promised, with that, the looking-back-laughing began.

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Remembering

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Internal Drive

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Goodness Currents

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