"Study Like a Dog" Monday's Warm Cocoa 7.27.2026

 

“Harry Pupper knows my routines and watches everything I do.” 

Study Like a Dog

Harry Pupper has been part of our family for twelve years now. He’s like me in at least one way. He’s getting a little “long in the tooth. We’ve lived together for a long time.

I say together because he’s with me inside and outside. We walk together, play together and often work together. 

Over the years I’ve noticed that he seemingly has an internal calendar and clock. I noticed this because he anticipates almost every move I make. He knows the day and time I go to regular-appointments and is often curious when my movements vary from what he knows is usual for me.

The other day when my “normal” routine changed and Harry Pupper was with me, I noticed a quizzical look envelope his face. And, for the first time I began to understand the depth at which he center’s his attention and interest on studying me.

It is this intense desire to study the people who are important to dogs that caused “Frederick the Great” to describe his Italian Greyhounds in the mid-1700s, particularly one named Biche, as: "The only, absolute and best friend a man has in this selfish world, the only one that will not betray or deny him." Over the ensuing years this statement has been shortened and modernized to describe dogs as “Man’s Best Friend.” And, there is another common saying, a bumper sticker, I thought of as I pondered Harry Pupper’s study habits.

Now I’m wondering if I am the person my dog thinks I am!  And, I can see my need to study and fully incorporate the “Harry Pupper Method” of friendship. Here are a few of Harry’s traits.

Harry is always sensitive to what his closest friends are feeling. When they’re happy, he shares their joy. When they’re sad he is there, offering his support and love. He also shares his love in other ways.

Harry watches out for his loved ones. He alerts us to potential dangers. He never hesitates to warn of potential danger and is wary of people he doesn’t know. At the same time, he always remembers people he knows are important to us.

Harry demonstrates his understanding of true worth. He is completely loyal, giving and doesn’t hide is affection. He also knows the value of home.

Harry pays attention to his home. He’s sure to walk the yard every day to make sure things are as they should be. His heart is where his home is.

His heart is completely true. He observes his loved ones, knows their habits, their likes and their schedule. He even reminds us of when it is time to do the things he knows are important to us.

Harry Pupper reminds me to be the person he thinks I am and how to study like a dog! 

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Confused," Monday's Warm Cocoa 7.20.2026

"What Happened? Did you lose your car?” 

Confused

It was early on a Tuesday morning. By the time I parked my car at the airport the sun was beginning to filter through the clouds, so silver glistened around the gray-puffs floating above. I noticed because I had stopped to complete a personal airport parking lot ritual.

My ritual is simple. Before I walk far from where I’ve parked, I stop and shoot a quick photo of the sign marking the location. That way I don’t have to worry about remembering where my car sits. After all, it seems as if I always arrive late at night, after working a full day.

My return flight touched down the next day, just before nine p.m. I wasn’t worried about finding my car, because I had the photo and I’d made a couple of mental notes to confirm my memory the day before. So, I walked right to the spot without concern. Until anxiety gripped my soul.

My car was not where I left it! Confused, I pulled my phone from my pocket and looked at the location photo. E8! No car! And, it was not only my car. The entire parking section exhibited only asphalt! More than one-hundred cars had disappeared! Had a magician befuddled me?

If so, then that same magician had confused others as well. A single man and one equally dazed couple stood not far away talking to an airport parking lot attendant. I sidled up while listening to their exchange.

“Your cars have been moved,” the attendant said.

The couple asked, “where are they?”

“Let me make a call,” the attendant responded before reporting, “they’re between E3 and E5. They tried to put the cars in the same order as their original location.”

Then, we the beleaguered travelers, began trudging together toward the promised location. The lone man found his car first. The couple found their car next. Mine was not yet found!

“We’re not going to leave you out here alone,” the couple exclaimed.

So, we walked the dark rows together until I spotted my car parked at seemingly the greatest distance possible.

“I’ve got it,” I cried. “Thank you for staying to help!”

They smiled. Our shared confusion had created a bond, so we exchanged contact information before parting. 

“Leaving the airport now.” I messaged before driving home.

When I walked into our house my wife was waiting.

“What happened? Did you lose your car?”

A second wave of surprise pummeled me!

“Why do you ask?”

“You’re much longer than I expected!”

“As a matter of fact,” I wearily grinned, while watching her confusion about how my car could have been moved without my knowledge!

And in the end? My confusion and exhaustion had been overwhelmed by kind and giving strangers.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Ambition" Monday's Warm Cocoa 7.13.2026

 

“He’s not just dreaming. He’s pursuing his ambition.” – Liam’s Grandmother 

Ambition

“What a difference between this year’s summer camp and last year’s,” Andrew Bart said excitedly over the phone. “You remember the horrible experience he had last year?”

I did remember Liam’s previous years’ experience. It was heart breaking.

“But this is different! This week he came to me saying he was dreaming of going back to computer camp. When I told my mother about his dreaming she responded with something unexpected.”

“Andrew, he’s not just dreaming,” she taught. “He’s pursuing his ambition!”

Andrew took a pensive pause before speaking again. “Isn’t it sad that so many of us loose our ability to recognize life’s small, simple, most important and transformative experiences? I’m so glad that my mother has maintained her ability to do so!”

Maintaining one’s ability to continually identify small and essential happiness-building moments isn’t singularly important as a parent. It’s also indispensable for individual life-long happiness and growth.

The aging process often dampens one’s ability to recognize the core significance of exploration. Which creates a strong desire to achieve something of significance. Maybe it’s because the acquisition of life experience conveys a lot of what could be called perceived-failure; an experience, outcome, or missed expectation that someone interprets as a failure, instead of dream-creating-exploration. This misconception often causes a person to no longer believe in themself. That’s what happened to Liam last summer.

Yet this summer, Liam Bart has offered you and me a window into how we might recapture and grow our own dreams into ambition. His is the perfect example of dreaming to acquire happiness. Because a person’s acquisition of ambition always starts with a dream.

Dreams get introduced to our minds through the trying-on of new ideas and activities. And, Liam’s computer camp has introduced him to many ideas to test. He’s learned to write computer code and has even written his own program. In the coming days he’ll be learning about creating and growing his own YouTube channel. These are all ideas that were unknown to him just a short time ago. Now they’re accelerating his happiness, prompting action and inspiring change.

Allow Liam’s process of happiness re-discovery open a door to being ten-year-old-like again. Introduce yourself to new ideas and activities. Allow them to well-up inside you so they can inspire new dreams; things you’ve never thought of before. And then, when you awaken, perhaps you’ll find you’ve discovered new ambition, as well as excitement once thought only to reside in the young.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Aha," Monday's Warm Cocoa 7.6.2026

"The goal is to say, can something beautiful grow out of this suffering?" – Robert Puff 

Aha

I’ve always taken pride in my work ethic, going back to my early days, as someone who was never the largest or most talented member of the youth sports teams on which I participated. I just played sports unremarkably. Until, I had a very particular aha moment.

One night a large, athletically gifted guy, came back to one of our practice sessions a few years after he had left the team. He thought he could simply show up again, years later, and instantly reclaim his position at the top of the roster. It didn’t happen!

At the end of his first, and only, practice back he came to me and asked, “what’s your name?”

I rehearsed my name to him, knowing that we had played together years prior, to which he responded Incredulously, “You’re Lynn Butterfield?”

That moment was my sudden realization. My instantly gained understanding, and a triumphant discovery. My hard work and discipline to the sport had transformed me from someone who was completely unmemorable to him into a player that had, over time, surpassed him. A person who had relied on his innate talent alone. My willingness and dedication to use and exercise my comparatively modest gifts had turned a lack of superior talent into good. From that moment I knew I could most often work and will my way to success.

Don’t get me wrong, I have continually discovered personal limits. For example, I never developed enough talent to play any sport as a professional athlete. There are physical factors precluding that. Yet, this discovery that anyone could turn modest personal gifts toward a creating a better, brighter future has benefited me ever since. 

This principle can also be beneficially appled toward life’s continually offered challenges. Robert Puff artfully says, “the goal is to say, can something beautiful grow out of this suffering?"

We each have the ability to learn from our suffering and every faced challenge while applying our meger gifts and exercising them for our good and inspiration. Everything we confront can become a continual source of aha moments to be used for our own good!

If you’re not netting you all you want in your life ask: Am I working to become the person that, others who knew you before you transformed your trials into good, won’t recognize in a couple of short years? 

 Sometimes that means starting new habits. Sometimes it means stopping old habits, while giving yourself the gift of time to grow spiritually, physically, relationally, mentally and financially.

Witness the person you’ll become!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Open Avenues," Monday's Warm Cocoa 6.29.2026

 

"The person you want to be is on the other side of what you don't want to face." - Chelom Leavitt 

Open Avenues

James and Crystal Hofferber were looking to create goodness on the other side of what they didn’t want to face. They never dreamt of the unlikely event that took their adult daughter’s life. Their loss was unthinkable. It was also unthinkable that the goodness of their daughter could also parish.

“Parish the thought,” Crystal said to James as they unlocked the door to their daughter’s now empty home and crossed its threshold. They were there to face something else they didn’t want to face. The examination of their daughter’s belongings. At first the reality of the task at hand seemed to hit them in the face as if the ice cold slap of reality. It was overwhelming.

But, as they looked at the nice furniture and other possessions remaining in the home, the feeling of being overwhelmed soon began to fade.

“James,” Crystal said, “I think most of this furniture is new or barely used! We could donate it to others in need. We certainly don’t need it!”

James had been listening to Crystal with his head bowed in reverence to the moment. The pair have been married for fifty-nine years and their trust in eachother is deep and unwaivering. As soon as his wife had finished her sentence, James did what he charistically does. He pulled his pen out of his pocket and began write. He made a list of everything. When they were prepared to gift their daughter’s possessions, toward the continuation of her intrinsic goodness, he pulled his phone out of his pocket so he could make some calls.

He called the local garden club first, to give them the hundreds of still potted plants to its membership. They came with trucks and many hands to harvest the plants, to continue planting beauty. Then he made another call to Open Avenues.

Open Avenues has been creating opportunities for people with disabilities since 1975. They  help individuals build skills, find employment, and live with purpose. If you’re ever having a bad day just go to the Open Avenues warehouse and interact with the people they serve. You’ll be inspired immediately and walk away happy. And, when the truck from Open Avenues pulled into the driveway to remove the furniture, their people brought their happiness and goodness with them.

“I found this jewelry in one of these drawers,” one of the men said while loading the truck. “What should I do with it?”

His innocence and innate kindness was the perfect personification of the person James and Crystal had become on other side of the tragedy they didn’t want to face. The loss of their daughter.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"For Our Benefit" Monday's Warm Cocoa 6.22.2026

 

“It will turn out to be for our benefit in the end. Thank you for ministering to us.” 

For Our Benefit

“We just suspended the treatment. My wife had an adverse reaction to one of the infusions. They’ve been able to stabilize her now. The reaction as so severe that the doctor stopped everything after stabilization. They are preparing a new plan forward. It will be at least one week now before they begin the first full treatment now,” he typed while watching a bevy of nurses and one doctor attending to his wife.

His message was sent to his minister who was anxiously awaiting news of his parishioners first chemotherapy session following her surgery. He had asked the husband to let him know how the initial treatment went earlier that morning by texting a quick note. Not long after receiving the minister’s request the wife’s infusion began.

What began in an uneventful manner was short-lived. The intervenes drip from the bag, holding the first treatment drug, delivered only seven drops before the patient’s skin turned a hot red and pain flashed through her body.

This life-threatening reaction caused the attending nurses to spring into action and call the oncologist in to the fight for the patient’s life. It was intense and the faces of all, except for the patient’s, were grim. Her face turned from red to ashen as administered counter measures began to take hold. That’s when her husband sent his note to their minister, who responded quickly.

“Oh no I’m so sorry. That’s awful. I’m grateful they could stabilize her. That’s all a lot to deal with. I feel so bad for you guys,” the pastor responded within seconds.

“It will turn out to be for our benefit in the end. Thank you for ministering to us,” the husband touched back, just before the pastor answered again.

“I love that perspective and agree. I’ve been praying and am sure that God and his angels will watch over her. No doubt that’s happening for her,” the pastor padded back as reassurance.

We all seek reassurance during such difficulties. And, in this instance the greatest reassurance, received by an ailing wife’s husband, came as a result of a deeper understanding and source. 

“Life has taught me that everything a person experiences in life can and will be turned to a person’s good if they will allow it to,” he explained before continuing. “The essence of life is the ongoing pursuit of meaning, connection, and self-awareness. It isn’t a single, fixed destination but an active instruction: finding purpose through contribution, cultivating empathy in relationships, and embracing the simple, everyday moments of living.”

It is those everyday moments of living that are for our benefit. Watch for attending benefits with unwavering anticipation and everything will turn out to be for your good in the end.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Love Language," Monday's Warm Cocoa 6.15.2026

 

“Cooking is my love language.” – Laurel Shepherd

Love Language

She didn’t usually accept an offer from a friend to bring a meal in. That’s because Susan wasn’t used to accepting simple offers of kindness. But, for some reason she decided she needed to change. She needed to begin to accept such offers of kindness.

“I’ve decided to begin to let people help me if they offer,” Susan said to herself in the seconds that passed, while staring at the screen-bound words. Luckily, she had the time to process the request, along with her determination to change. It wasn’t as if it was a verbal conversation. That was good, because there wasn’t any uncomfortable “dead air” hanging between them, as a result of the short delay in response. That made everything much easier for Susan to pause, take a big breath and then move her fingers in response.

“That would be kind of you,” she typed, while thinking. “I can’t believe I’m actually doing this; leaving my comfort zone thing!”

Laurel responded swiftly. “Wonderful! What day will work best for you?”

“Thursday will be better for us,” Susan typed back.

“Sounds good! Is there anything you’d especially like to have?”

“Surprise me!”

Thursday arrived, on schedule, three days later. Susan felt anticipation as a result. After all, this was a new thing for her. “I’m the one who usually delivers dinner to others,” She said right out loud. But, I need to let people do good for me as well.” 

That good was announced that afternoon, when Laurel sent a new note announcing that her husband and a couple of their children would be stopping by at about six in the evening to deliver a warm meal. And, at almost that exact time Susan’s ring noticed their arrival.

This advent of dinner took more than just two sets of hands to carry the eye- pleasing food into the house. It took all three sets of hands to carry in containers of warm chicken & rice curry with fresh-baked sour dough bread. And, the smell wafting from the carrying hands was heavenly!

“We’ll let you enjoy this food before it gets cold,” Nathan, Laurel’s husband said with a divine smile before the trio left the house.

The taste of the food was just as marvelous as the smell and Nathan’s smile. It was also just as satisfying for her to feel contentment as a result of her decision to accept the kindness offered. So, she sent a note to Laurel thanking her for an exquisite dinner.

“Cooking is my love language,” Laurel responded, most likely with a twinkle in her eye, knowing that her friend was now, certainly sharing and communicating in Laurel’s preferred vernacular.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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