"Savored Moments" Monday's Warm Cocoa 4.27.2026

“You won’t believe it when you see what my daughter just did! I’ll send you a photo,” 

– K. Johnson

Savored Moments

“You won’t believe it when you see what my daughter just did! I’ll send you a photo,” she said excitedly.

Such an excited announcement could mean at least a couple of things. It could mean I was going to hear from a distraught mother. Yet, when I heard a laughter bouncing off my eardrum I knew she was taking it all in stride. That merriment of motherhood also ushered in a second possible meaning of the phone-based pronouncement.

It was the acknowledgement that yes, there was a huge mess made by an active toddler and it was okay, even laughable. Our conversation and mirth demonstrated the importance of focusing on happiness providing personal virtues. 

The concept of virtue ethics was pioneered by Aristotle. His work focused on exploring how to live a good and happy life by emphasizing "being" over "doing," while focusing on what a virtuous person would do, rather than relying on strict rules or consequences. The laughing mother on the phone call was modeling her possession of personal virtue by savoring her daughter’s handiwork.

Aristotle posited that happiness is achieved through "activity of the soul in accordance with virtue". Virtues are character traits most often identified as attributes like courage, justice, patience and generosity. They’re developed through practice and habit. And, while not as well studied in the concepts of virtue as many others, the virtue of “savor” could well be added to the list.

When the promised photos of the talked-about toddler arrived on my phone I could see a lot of savoring in the images. I could also hear the sounds of savored happiness from her mother on the phone.

“I don’t think I have ever savored Nutella in this way,” I said as I studied the chocolaty smear covering the girl’s face, hair, hands and arms. Hers was a not a simple tasting. Her savoring was a method of becoming one with the spread, as well as with the color of the kitchen cabinets, while complementing the lighter-colored tile flooring. The child’s happiness also flattered the savored contentment of her mother.

Nothing destroys happiness and contentment faster than falling prey to a reliance on strict rules or consequences in such moments; as offered by a daughter dancing while covered in Nutella. When something like savoring smeared Nutella happens we are all offered a choice and a chance. The choice is between happiness and discontent.

Choose the virtue of savored moments and happiness when the offer presents itself.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Enchanted" Monday's Warm Cocoa 4.20.2026

“It is urgent to live enchanted.”— Valter hugo mãe

Enchanted

“Jim and I both find a lot of things about this house to be very appealing,” Rhonda said before making a quick, yet very significant side-note. “This is the one telling us it is our place!”

There was a time, in the past, when I would have not used a yellow highlighter on the memory cells in my brain to emphasize that little side-note. But, that would have been a very long time ago. Ever since I was with my Uncle Jerry as we stood near the back of his flat-bed farm truck talking. As his dog waved his tongue at us from atop it’s worn wood plank flooring. I was filled with wonder at the bond between my uncle and his hovering, attentive dog.

“How did you know this dog would be a good one,” I asked as any expectant mentee would.

Jerry’s answer was rapid and definite, “I simply walk among the dogs, in the local animal shelter, until I find the one who knows me. When one recognizes me, we go home together.”

That was my first experience with enchanted living. And, its impact deeply imprinted, lasting for more than fifty years!  So-much-so that watching for its manifestation has become an established philosophy of living and followed methodology over subsequent years. Of this, one of my friends said, “It is a way for me a make a life!”

That is exactly what Jim and Rhonda Kaschmitter were planning to do as they began to plan for life after they retired from their professional lives. They wanted to make a life. I didn’t know them prior to this. We lived in completely different places and I first met them in Uncle Jerry fashion, crossing paths as they were out looking for the “place that knew them.”

Of course, there were times when they were unsure. But, they were not alone on their journey. During one of their trips, to the place that knew them, while searching for their new home, they brought some friends with them. Those friends arrived as skeptics of enchanted living and left as staunch supporters.

“We’ve seen how you light up when you’re here and know this is where you should be,” Jim and Rhonda’s friends said on the day of their departure back to their home in another state.

It took Rhonda and Jim many more trips and days of looking for the neighborhood and home that knew them. In fact, it took them two years before Rhonda said, “Jim and I both find a lot of things about this house to be very appealing,” before making that quick, yet very significant side-note. “This is the one telling us it is our place!”

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Are We Having Fun Yet? Monday's Warm Cocoa 4.13.2026

“What are you looking forward to this year?” – Ali Al Jabry

Are We Having Fun Yet?

He is getting old now! I can tell by the little things he does. Or, the little things he doesn’t do. Yet, there is still one message Harry Pupper sends me constantly, a never diminishing query. It was the same question my friend, Ali Al Jabry, asked me while eating morning croissants together last Monday.

“What are you looking forward to this year?” Ali said, with mirth exploding out of his dark eyes.

The question caught me by surprise. I stammered, knowing that Ali lives an adventurous lifestyle with his wife. They work hard, but always seem to fit sight-seeing and new experiences in their heavy travel schedule.

For example, early this year he and his wife were on a sales trip to Europe. They had never been to Portugal before, so they arranged to tack a few days to their trip to explore Portuguese food, culture and beaches. Perhaps Ali’s penchant for travel is the result of growing up in several global locations and attending the American High School in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. I’m not sure. But, I do know that his question caused me to mull his ask over and over again for the entire day. Right up to the time I got home, where Harry Pupper was faithfully awaiting my return.

Harry was more animated than usual when I got home. So much so that I wondered where he had gotten a little extra pep in his step. His insistence for attention soon caused me to wonder what it was he really wanted. And, over time his doggedness spoke loudly enough for me to get the message!

“I’ve been looking forward to playing ball all day,” Harry said, by wagging his stubby tail rapidly, bouncing from side to side, dodging my slow attempts to ruffle the fur on his head and finally launching his entire body off the ground to ping his feet off my legs, before landing those same feet right back where they started.

“Oh,” I finally said. “You want to play ball! How was Ali able to get you to ask what I was looking forward to this year, again?”

Was this a coincident? I think not! Ali and Harry Pupper were unquestionably scheming together. Both intuitively knew that I had misplaced the simple capacity of looking forward to life’s never-ending offer of adventure, variety, joy and fun. It was revelation that caused me to look down, into those bright puppy eyes, filled with hope, before saying, “Okay, okay Harry. Let’s play ball. Neither you nor I should ever be too old to look forward to and have a little fun!”

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Start Here!" Monday's Warm Cocoa 4.6.2026

“Do you think we should wait because of the positive growth here?”

– Karen Maloney

Start Here!

Karen looked a little apprehensive, as if questioning her feelings, yet she knew her question was an important one to ask, “do you think we should wait because of the positive growth here?”

“Well, the answer to that is a clear yah-no,” I quickly answered, knowing the question she was asking was based on numerous unspoken questions she was in the process of sorting through with Carl, her husband.

“I love it when answers are so clear,” She said as, mirth sparkled in her eyes.

I knew that wasn’t the answer she wanted to hear when I spoke it. I also knew she and Carl loved living in their home, overlooking a picturesque lake with shores laced with towering deciduous trees and ancient, stacked stone cliffs. I also knew of other desires they craved.

They’re both entrepreneurs in the early stages of growing their companies and brands. The financial worries of starting one business, let alone two businesses at the same time can be daunting. They were feeling the pressures associated with the path they had chosen to follow and wanted to find some peace of mind.

The thing to know about following a path is this: You’re always starting where you are, even when you can see others on the same trail, who often began their journey at a location differing from your own.

“You have to start where you are,” I quickly said as a follow-up statement, the moment I saw a furrow of concern ripple across Karen’s eyebrow. “I can’t tell you exactly what to do, because I don’t know what’s most important to you yet.”

The word, yet, allowed the muscles in Karen’s face to relax as she said, “we just need good information so we can make the right decisions.”

The good information Karen and Carl need must be based on more than simply starting where they are. They also need to know where they want to end up! At the same time, there are lots of twists, turns and obstacle to navigate in between the here and there. But, having a clear understanding of where they’re starting is essential.

I circled back to where we started, “do I think you should wait because of the positive growth here? No. I think you should wait until you understand exactly where you are, without worrying about everything else right now.”

Here is one more question I suggested they should begin with, “Can I sleep at night, when the wind blows?” Start here!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Search-Me" Monday's Warm Cocoa 3.20.2026

"Real experiences in real life gives me a lot of hope.”

– Arthur C. Brooks

Search-Me!

“If you’re only watching national politicians, the activist class, or lightning-rod podcasters or influencers, the answer is no — you don’t see any progress,” Arthur C. Brooks words boomed inside of me as my friend was speaking.

She was feeling bleak, as if the entire world was spiraling out of control. It seemed to her as if there was nothing but disagreement and chaos all around. She is not alone. Many others are experiencing the same disillusionment. Arthur calls this “a crisis of meaning” and such feelings can be characterized as common in today’s world. Luckily, there are also some common steps you and I can take to overcome such angst.

The first step is to, well, take steps. Starting your day with an early morning walk surrounded by nature will charge your soul and help you to begin with strength.

I was about to say, don’t take your phone with you, but I take my phone with me so I can shoot photos of what takes my breath away. I’ve found that if I run these photos as a slide show during the day, they act as an anchor to keep me connected with beauty.

Second, stay swathed in beauty daily. There is beauty all around us. It is so ubiquitous it can become invisible. Practice seeing it.

My friend James Griffin makes sure he doesn’t see natural beauty alone. He invites friends to walk with him a 6:00 a.m., at least one day each week. It allows him to take four steps, toward finding meaning, at once.

Spending time with friends and family is the third step everyone can take. Walking with friends to start each day is a great way to build individual relationships. It’s the perfect time to share hopes, dreams and ideas. James also uses it as a way to learn how he can help others through his work.

“My ‘walks and talks’ help me to learn about the personal struggles my friends and clients are facing. It causes the wheels to turn in my head, to wonder how I can use my business to help in ways I never would have thought of on my own. It builds my faith in the future,” James says. 

Maintaining a focusing on helping others through work is the fourth step and James unexpectedly discovered that it naturally provided the fifth step, nurturing faith, toward profound meaning, in his search. 

“Search” is a useful descriptor, because these steps are not necessarily all-inclusive. “Search-me,” is a common phrase, sometimes used in reply to a question asked. It’s a reply used when someone doesn’t know the answer. So, use these five steps, adapt them, subtract them, or add to them, as you search inside yourself to find hope and meaning.

Search-me!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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Using the Power of Three, Monday's Warm Cocoa 3.23.2026

“You can use three very power forces in the universe!” – Tim Stone

Using the Power of Three

Tim Stone began his story with a statement. “I built a wood-fired pizza oven for my home!”

Of course, Tim was excited to use his new accoutrement. So, he carefully built a fire inside the oven using flavor enhancing oak, to give his food that extra taste he was craving. Then he lit the fire and turned his efforts to gathering the ingredients to craft his pizza. That shift in effort didn’t last long!

Seconds after he turned away from his oven, a fire began ravaging his house! That unwelcome fire fully engulfed his attention as he tried everything he could do to stop the fire’s advance. Nothing helped! He and his wife barely escaped with this lives.

He said, “I must have done something wrong when I built that fateful wood-burning pizza oven!”

His home was a total loss! His life was in shambles! Well, not complete shambles, in hindsight. 

“While this fire was devastating,” Tim continued, “it led me to discover reticular activation.”

You know what that is through personal experience. For example, you buy a new car and think you’ve found something unique and special, right up to the time you drive it off, taking it out on the open road. That’s when your eyes are fully open to all cars, just like the one you bought! Your purchase triggered the reticular activating system, meaning your perception changed and you begin to pay attention to other things. In this case, cars aligned with your new focus.

Tim’s focus shifted as a result of that fire. He began to use three of the most powerful forces in the universe to build a new home, right where his now destroyed home once stood. Tim is sharing them with you.

Imagination. “Imagine, with feeling, who you want to be and what you want to accomplish,” Tim teaches. He imagined the new home he wanted by creating detailed plans with a list of comprehensive materials. Then, he employed the next powerful universal force.

Decision. “Make a determined decision exactly what you want and don’t stop until you achieve or become it,” Tim says. A firm decision is very important in this process, because unforeseen barriers will begin to appear as you progress. Such barriers can be discouraging to those without determination! And, gratefully, you’ll find your own determination as you progress forward.

Gratitude. “Enter into and stay in a consistent state of gratitude for everything in your life. Good and bad,” Tim counsels.

When you use these three forces in combination, three new things happen. You begin to attract new thoughts and ideas in alignment with your decided imagination. Your perception changes and you begin to pay attention to people and opportunities aligned with your new focus. Finally, synchronicity and coincidence begin to align with your imagination, decision and gratitude! “Things” simply begin “showing up” in your life!

Those things certainly showed up in Tim’s life. I know that for sure. Because I’ve seen the new beautiful house he created!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"1964" Monday's Warm Cocoa 3.16.2026

“Gary and Connie Shellhammer were married on October 18, 1964.”

1964

Spring was in the air and Gary Shellhammer was in the driveway as I pulled in. He was moving slowly. The years have begun to impact the way he moves these days. Yet, those years have not dimmed his smile or his ability to love.

If anyone questions the depth of his love they simply need to think of the number 1964. That was the year he married Connie; on October 18th in Lakeview, Ohio. And, that same community celebrated Gary and Connie’s fiftieth anniversary in 2014, the way they always do, in small-town Logan County style. Where such events are most often community-wide invitations rather than private affairs. This anniversary-open-house was no different. The people of Lakeview love Gary and Connie because of the way they’ve loved everyone in that town for just shy of the sixty-two years, since they’ve called it home.

As soon as I pulled into Gary’s driveway and exited my car Gary’s eyes lit up. I was expected and he greeted me warmly before saying, “I’ll just be a minute. I’ll go in and get Connie.” That being said, Gary walked nattily into the house.

Gary came out of the house, holding Connie’s hand, not long afterward. His hand gently caressed hers as he guided her toward me slowly. Connie isn’t as steady on her feet as she was when she first met Gary while attending college. That doesn’t matter to Gary. Anyone can tell that by spending a moment or two observing his gentle, attentive doting.

Gary’s compassion was on full display as he reached for the car door, opened it and then spoke softly to Connie. “Take care now. Let me help you get settled. I’m going to reach across you to get your seatbelt. There! I’ve got you clicked in.”

Once Gary’s seatbelt was also tight and clicked we were on our way. We stopped and started several times while together. Gary’s consideration to Connie never changed. She was quiet. He attended to her.

“The steepness of this hill worries Connie,” Gary whispered in my ear, as we stood looking out over a landscape of rock, trees and rolling hills.

I didn’t hear Connie speak those words. Gary didn’t need to hear them audibly. Somehow, he could read everything her eyes were expressing. He answered her directly with a squeeze of her hand. That squeeze said, “I hear you. I understand. I’m here with you. I’m watching over you.”

I watched this sacrosanct interaction an entire morning; until I dropped them back at their home. Gary got out of the car first. Then, he helped Connie, just as he does every time. He moves slowly; the years heavily impacting his travel. Yet, those years have not dimmed his smile, or weakened his love. He spoke marriage vows with Connie sixty-two years ago and since then, Gary’s every movement corroborates, “I took your hand in 1964 and I’ll never let go.” 

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Being Beautiful" Monday's Warm Cocoa 3.9.2026

“The luminous and shocking beauty of the everyday is something I try to remain alert to, if only as an antidote to the chronic cynicism and disenchantment that seems to surround everything, these days. It tells me that, despite how debased or corrupt we are told humanity is and how degraded the world has become, it just keeps on being beautiful.” – Nick Cave

Being Beautiful

The woman speaking was not someone others would consider to be physically beautiful. She was an old woman now. Her skin was a reminder of how Saharan Desert wind blows naturally designing sand into distinctive patterns to create interest and beauty to dress imposing sand dunes. Looking at her exterior allows one to see the toll life can take on all of us. Yet, as she spoke it was clear that her life’s experience was much deeper than her covering skin.

“I was alone for about fifty years,” she said, while morphing beyond a worn human. “I decided to come back to this group not too long ago and I wondered if I would be accepted after being an outsider for so long.”

Her decision to become separate had left her feeling isolated for so long that disenchantment seemed to surround everything. It had made her days feel lonely and meaningless. One could even describe the quality of her lonely life as degraded. The sorrow of her spoken words caused a penetrating empathy to seep into the hearts of every person listening. The room was filled with understanding.

“Then,” she continued, “not long after I came back I received a call from Rachel Gubler.”

The eyes of the crowd traced the verbalization of Rachel to her physical presence. She was sitting in the midst of them and had a slightly sheepish look rush across face as eyes focused on her. 

“Rachel asked if she could come to pick me up. I thought we were just going to spend a little time together. And, we did. We talked as she drove and I didn’t pay attention to where she was driving until we came to this building. I couldn’t imagine why, of all the places we could go, that we would come here on that day!”

I thought of Nick Cave’s words while still focused on our friend-in-common, Rachel. 

Nick wrote, “The luminous and shocking beauty of the everyday is something I try to remain alert to, if only as an antidote to the chronic cynicism and disenchantment that seems to surround everything, these days.”

The speaking woman was reaching the crescendo of her tale. “We walked into the building and were greeted by several other woman who had all come together, at Rachel’s invitation, to throw me a surprise birthday party! That’s when I knew I was no longer alone!”

And at that moment, Nick Cave’s continuing words confirmed the meaning of that tale as I rehearsed them in my mind. 

“It tells me that, despite how debased or corrupt we are told humanity is and how degraded the world has become, it just keeps on being beautiful.”

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Sawdust" Monday's Warm Cocoa 3.2.2026

"I have always admired a man like the late Fred Fuller Shedd, who had a gift for stating an old truth in a new and picturesque way.” – Dale Carnegie 

Sawdust

I just happened to be walking past the “fishbowl” window glass, behind which Don Dancer was sitting. We locked eyes and smiled at each other. That was my invitation to enter through the office door and say hello.

Don started our conversation by asking, “How are you?”

Then, seemingly, without taking a breath Don continued, “What are you doing to take care of yourself?”

He then talked about the importance of moving-on from one’s past before describing his determination to create his own happy and satisfying future. As he was speaking I could almost see Dale Carnegie’s persona projecting from Don’s countenance as he pontificated about the futility of worrying about the past.

Dale Carnegie wrote, “I have always admired a man like the late Fred Fuller Shedd, who had a gift for stating an old truth in a new and picturesque way. While editor of the Philadelphia Bulletin and addressing a college graduating class, he asked: ‘How many of you have ever sawed wood? Let’s see your hands.’ Most of them had. Then he inquired: ‘How many of you have ever sawed sawdust?’ No hands went up. ‘Of course, you can’t saw sawdust!’ Mr. Shedd exclaimed. ‘It’s already sawed! And it’s the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that are over and done with, you’re merely trying to saw sawdust.’”

Don has stopped trying to saw sawdust! It feels so good to him that he wanted to offer me the same gift. And, he hasn’t stop at that. He’s busy and active in designing a curated life, doing the work of sawing new wood. He’s following a process of gathering, cleaning, and selecting actions and experiences to enable his daily living to become present in a specific, intentional way.

Intention is everything when it comes to creating intended results. Don knows this and schedules personal imaging time weekly.

“I spend time thinking about what I want my future to be,” he explained to me, while emphasizing the importance of this seemingly unassuming, yet essential activity. “The reason you do it on a weekly basis is that creating the life you want is a ‘design-build’ process. It is impossible to visualize everything you want in one sitting, because you learn and build as you go!”

It was time for me to go. So, I thanked Don for inspiring me. And, as I stepped past the doorway to leave I felt the need glance at my reflected-self in that “fishbowl” window glass to see if there was sawdust needing to be brushed off!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Linking Arms" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.23.2026

“Her current water heater is completely burned up and not producing hot water.” – Ben Rowell

Linking Arms

“I meet people who need financial help with their plumbing regularly,” Ben Rowell explained to me one day, not long after we were introduced by a friend in common.

“I’d like to create a non-profit to help some of these people. They’re often elderly, have lost their spouse and are on a fixed income,” He clarified.

We’ve had many discussions following this initial conversation and have explored multiple options. But, institutional ways forward never felt right. They all seemed to siphon funds away from direct help toward more complex and expensive management. So, we’ve continued the way-forward-conversation since. Until I floated an impression recently.

“Let’s just gather in as many like-minded friends as possible and we’ll work together informally to help those we can,” I suggested not long before receiving an endorsing message from Ben.

“My plumber, Aaron, is at an elderly single lady’s home, says she’s on a very low fixed income and is being denied for promotional plans/financing. Her current water heater is completely burned up and not producing hot water. Do you have an interesting in helping us provide her a safe water heater?” 

Ben, as always, had seized the initiative and leapt forward! I wasn’t surprised. He comes from parents who have lived a lifetime centered on service and caring for others.

Kevin and Ruth Rowell, retired from their professions, continue teaching through their skills of compassion and giving. While assisting them to find a new home over the past few months, they maintained their focus on helping young adult students by purposefully searching for a new home in close proximity to a college campus.

“We want to be in a position to invite students into our home for dinners. We want to be where they are, so we can help in as many ways as possible,” they continually expressed to me.

“No wonder Ben is so outwardly focused,” I found myself saying time and time again, until we found them, “their place.” 

Now it was time for me to accept Ben’s invitation, with all those who would join us. 

“Of course, I’ll donate!”

“Thank you, that’s very kind. Let me check with Aaron and see how she would like to proceed and touch base again soon,” Ben responded immediately and then, right after that he sent another confirming message.

“Alright, it looks like everything is in play for us to provide this elderly woman a water heater! What would be helpful for you to provide the donation, a Venmo link?”

I looked down at the payment link shining brightly on my screen. That’s when I realized It was more than a link to share funds. It was an opportunity to link arms with others wanting to freely offer goodness to others.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xZQuYPScTjjNNeNY96xXOVc4azkWay8v/view?usp=sharing

"Creating Legacy" Monday's Warm Cocoa 9.16.2026

“My mother suggested that I make a wise decision.” 

– Alex Franco

Creating Legacy

Alex was standing in front of his business, El Trompo Loco, at the Boardwalk Food Truck Court. It’s a place known for its wide variety of international cuisines and family-friendly atmosphere, while winning the "Best of NWA Food Truck Park" Gold Award for three years running. Alex and his family are a big part of that success since their arrival three years ago. Yet, it’s a streak that may not have begun at all, had Alex made one decision differently.

“I was about to graduate from high school and didn’t have a clue what I was going to do with my life,” he explained.

Alex’s mother Lizette, however, had been quietly saving money on her son’s behalf for many years. It was her hope that the money would open a pathway toward success for Alex. So, just before his graduation Lizette surprised him by telling him of her hopeful gift.

“I couldn’t believe it!” Alex said, as his eyes brightened with a little merriment. “The first thing that came to my mind was to go out and purchase a new Chevy Camaro! I told my mom about my plan and she patiently offered me life changing advice.”

Lizette told her son, in a very loving way, of her hopes that he would use the money to create opportunity, to make his future bright and promising. Her guidance flipped a switch in Alex’s heart and mind.

“I started thinking about what I could do,” Alex said. “I thought of everything I knew how and liked to do and said to myself. I can cook using my mother’s recipes!”

That’s when Alex began searching for a food truck fitting his budget. After an extensive search he found one, purchased it and brought it home. His mother and father stayed supportive as all three cleaned-up the truck, rebranded it and began offering delicious food to their neighbors.

“It was a little difficult at first, but I found myself wanting to get up early to plan and then cook well into the night. I loved it. That all led my family and me to look for the right location.”

Yet, they found more than location. They found a community of help. The Arkansas Food Innovation Center accepted them in to their business development program where they learned a lot about business and product development. Now they’re an award-winning business with big plans to expand into salsa distribution in local grocery stores.

“We’re working to open four more food trucks now,” Lizette said before describing the family legacy she envisions. “One day we’ll add a brick and mortar restaurant to go along with our bottled salsas and marinades!”

And tomorrow? That legacy will be receiving a strong endorsement when the entire track team from Iowa State University arrives on their bus for their reservation to dine at El Trompo Loco for dinner after a big competition.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Let the Present In" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.9.2026

"Maybe it isn’t about forgetting the past.” – One friend to another

Let the Present In

The two friends had just patched things up after their very public argument. Both of them could be characterized as men, but they were both really just on the cusp of being so, since they still lacked seasoning; the process of acquiring maturity, wisdom, and competence through wide-ranging life experience, and time.

“I know I get caught up in being afraid,” Mica explained to his friend, a few days after their argument, while sitting on his porch. “When that happens, I seem to automatically wreak some chaos. I guess thanks how I distract myself from fear.” 

Garr sat listening carefully as Mica explained himself, while recognizing the opening for his own apology.

“I’m sorry too,” he said sincerely. “I seem to always be living in the past, no matter how hard I try to forget it!”

The two of them were more alike than they had ever suspected! They were realizing, for the very first time, that they were facing a common antagonist. A painful past. Both of the young men had lost their core families at a young age. 

Mica’s loss of his mother came when he was about eleven years old. Since then he had faced a life of survival. He was on his own and had a hard time forming friendships. He trusted no one!

Garr trusted no one either. He was the “black sheep” of his family, different than all of them; a fact emphasized by the memorable sight of his father becoming so angry with him that he got in his vehicle and flew away. Garr could only stand and watch as he was left standing alone in an unfamiliar and mostly strange part of the planet. He was about sixteen when that happened. It was a past that shaped his isolated view of the world every single day.

“Perhaps,” Garr said as he looked at his only and newly trusted friend. “Maybe it isn’t about forgetting the past. Perhaps the trick is not to forget the past, but to remember it.”

Mica sat there with surprise racing across his face as he heard Garr say that. After all, they had just discovered that they were both trapped in their past, trauma. But, their unfamiliar, shared moment of trust allowed him to hold his tongue and wait for Garr to finish.

“Perhaps the trick is not to forget the past, but to remember it, while allowing the present in.”

That’s when both friends sat there, quietly together, allowing their trust of each other to settle in. To become comfortable, like a well-worn, soft pair of jeans. Letting the present in.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Common Ground" Monday's Warm Cocoa 2.2.2026

"What began in confrontation ended with in a brotherly embrace.” - Daniel Swede

Common Ground

In the end, the two men embraced as their differences had been transformed into commonality. But their encounter did not begin on such friendly ground.

Daniel was looking forward to gathering with associates and friends last Thursday. The get-together had been planned to occur a couple of days earlier, but had been pushed-out as a result of the unusually icy, cold weather.

“I think we all were suffering from a little cabin fever,” Daniel said, just before walking into the designated ‘watering hole.’”

There was a sparkle in his eye as he pulled the door open, seeing friends he hadn’t seen for a few weeks. His confidence was overflowing as he spotted Grace and her soft gray eyes. Those eyes were her “tell.” They told everyone she happened upon how kind she was. The evening was beginning just as he had hoped.

That same hope blossomed as he glanced across the room to see other friends sitting at a long, rectangular table. So, he skipped (well, sort of for a man of his age) over to the table to greet them warmly, conversing as he sat with them.

“What do you think of the news?” Eric asked.

“I was with friends,” Daniel said. “So, I didn’t worry about my answer to that seemingly harmless question. I have to tell you I was taken aback by Eric’s vehement reaction to my answer. I had never seen him so hostile.”

Eric’s response was instant. “How could anyone be stupid enough to think that!”

Eric raged in Daniel’s face for a time. So much so that Daniel’s pleasant hopes for his much anticipated, warm cordial evening with friends seemed to be dashed. And, to his credit, he sat patiently, calmly, listening to Eric.

Everyone else at the table tuned out because of the singularly, heated exchange. Their body language ensued separation from the onslaught. Daniel, partly due to his being the one assailed, stayed both absorbed and shielded.

He was absorbing the information coming rapidly at him while searching for commonality. He had been in such confrontations before and felt confident that his listening skills would guide him forward toward a positive outcome for everyone.

“I knew a little bit about Eric and could tell he was passionate about being good to other people. After all, I knew he had served in special forces, because he wanted to protect others. That knowledge was confirmed quite quickly as I listened to what he was saying. So, I began agreeing with his, our common, caring nature. That allowed Eric to recognize the common ground we were standing on!”

As a result, the evening quickly got back on track and the whole table of people were once again actively engaged in friendly, enlivened camaraderie.

“What began in confrontation ended with in a brotherly embrace,” Daniel said gratefully.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Small and Important," Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.26.2026

"Sometimes purpose is something small and personal.” – Twila Newton

Small and Important

“The teacher is now the student,” I thought as Twila was speaking with seemingly every eye in the room focused on her. There were lots of eyes in the room.

The room was filled with adult students. Every one attending was there to gain a new understanding of the power of purpose. They came into the class seeking a new, or expanded understanding of how to capture and internalize a grand personal purpose.

“Sometimes when you and I see the immensity of the universe and then look in the mirror it’s easy to become overwhelmed by our own smallness,” the presenter said, while showing a photo of the vastness and grandeur of stars and planets gloried in space.

“But,” the presenter continued, “each individual can find a large personal purpose. A purpose that can give meaning, depth and an inner drive toward exceptional achievement.” There was a pause then, to allow a dramatic absorption of that theory.

That’s when Twila, an older, worn looking woman, hesitantly allowed her fingers to point toward the ceiling, pulling her right arm up, as if attached to uncertain puppet master’s string.

“I don’t think purpose has to be large and grand,” she said in a quavering voice.

Those words seemed to be a sharp pin, purposely positioned to pierce an invisible balloon holding air in the room. Because, all of the air seemingly began to leave the room. Silence ensued.

The presenter relaxed. Then he settled on the edge of a table near the podium, where he sat. His eyes were focused on Twila. His face immediately morphed into a genteel caring sponge. He was listening, considering.

“I came into a meeting one time,” Twila continued. “There was a new woman there. I could tell she was feeling cautious. So, I went up to her and introduced myself saying, you know, I hadn’t come to a meeting like this for about fifty years; until last fall. I know what it’s like to take a big step into the unknown!”

She went on to explain that after that small interchange the new woman relaxed and enjoyed being there. It allowed her to forget that she the feeling of being alone.

“When that meeting ended,” Twila said with emotion choking, no emphasizing, her words. “That same woman came up to me with tears flowing as she hugged me with gratitude for being able to embrace the finding of a new friend.”

Then she finished her point. “The experience taught me that small purpose is often the most important purpose a person and find. Sometimes purpose is something small and personal.”

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Origin Story" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.19.2026

"Connection, influence, and real leadership begin when you tell your story authentically.” – John Bates

Origin Story

“Connection, influence, and real leadership begin when you tell your story authentically,” John said with hawk-like intent.

John didn’t stop there. He told a story himself to make his point stick. After all, he also teaches that every story told should make a point.

“Let me tell you how much we all love stories! We spend hours and hours listening to and watching stories. But, when we’re watching a movie and someone you know calls, you touch pause on the movie share in their story! That alone shows you how important the story-connection between people is,” John illustrated.

Telling a story is the very best way for us to remember something. We may not remember the entire story word for word, but we’ll remember the point of the story, if not forever, for a very long time. I can still travel to the past in a flash, to the flicker of a dancing camp fire, to be with a couple of my buddies, to relive stories forged then and there again.

I can see Kevin Young’s matted, camp fire smoked hair, cradled by his interlaced hands behind his head. I see the stars, bright in the dark sky above. One star was moving!

Kevin comments and asks, “look at that one. It’s moving! What’s up with that?”

“It’s a satellite,” I respond.

“Is that via satellite?”

My ears are tickled again by remembered-laughter as I tell him that “via satellite” means “transmitted by satellite” to your TV. At that we laugh and laugh together for a long time before settling into our sleeping bags to ward-off the dropping temperatures of the night. We were friends for years prior to that evening, but our shared experience and that story cemented our bond for our lifetime. People want and need a human such connection.

It is the human connection that allows us to mirror each other as we experience stories. We mirror facial expressions, movements and emotions! We believe the stories that the teller believes! So, give others something wonderful to mirror. How do you do that?

Begin with a story about your own origin. Tell it to others when they ask about you. Do it by purposefully thinking about who you’re talking to and what you want them to know about you.

What is it that makes you, well, you? What is it that one moment that caused you to begin to write the story of the life you’ve been living?

John says, “when you share your origin story you open space for others to share their stories with you as well. It will create deeper trust and relationships with all people. We share stories because they have an impact on others!”

Connection, influence, and real leadership do indeed begin when you tell your own story authentically. We can’t wait to hear your story!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Fish Eye" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.12.2026

"If we dynamically look toward what nourishes us, we’ll be endowed to vigorously pursue it” – Katie Buttle

Fish Eye

“For some reason my daughter decided to get fish for a pet,” Katie said, before diving deeper. “I’m a ‘dog-person’ so the idea that fish could be a great pet was a bit befuddling.

Sometimes, though, moments of befuddlement open new currents of insight. Such opportunities are almost always tickling bubbles of unexpected surprise. And, Katie’s almost daily interaction with her daughter’s pet fish unpredictably prompted her toward a very unexpected, well, new-sight she calls seeing through “fish eyes.”

“I go into my daughter’s room regularly,” she explained. “I’m in there as part of everyday life. You know, putting away freshly laundered clothes, or pushing a vacuum cleaner over the carpet. It took me a while but I began to notice something very interesting about the fish swimming around in that tank.”

There is a small container of fish food sitting on top of the aquarium. It’s there as a reminder to feed those pet fish. After all, teenagers are often focused on lots of activities and school work. An active, busy life makes it easy to forget quietly swimming fish, gliding through temperature controlled, mechanically generated oxygenated water!

“The fish live in a fully controlled environment,” Katie continued. “Everything is provided for them. They don’t get to control anything, except for two things!”

Katie knew one of those fish-controlled actions naturally. The fish can decide if they want to eat the food given to them. But, it took her quite a bit of observation to discover the second thing the fish fully control. Where they look.

“After walking past the aquarium lots of times, I began to notice that the fish would swim toward the front glass and intently watch me! At first, I thought I was just imagining it. But, I began to go into the room just to test them. I was curious to know if those fish eyes were really tracking my movements,” She elucidated. “They were! I was so happy to know that I wasn’t delusional!”

The fish had learned that their food appeared, was delivered, when a human walked up to their tank. So, it didn’t take them long before they began to put the bubble hazed pieces together. They would see a person approach, believe that food would be provided and then place themselves into a sustenance-seizing position.

“Fish eyes taught me the importance of having a dynamic focus! I’ve been taught this principle for a lifetime, but its importance has never been as impactful until viewed through fish eyes. If we dynamically look toward what nourishes us, we’ll be endowed to vigorously pursue it for our own benefit,” Katie said of what she’s learned from those unexpected, insightful, following fish eyes.

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"In From the Cold" Monday's Warm Cocoa 1.5.2026

"We’ve set up a warming center in my church” – Tommy Smith

In from the Cold

In the very early morning of a cold, cold day, Tommy Smith walked into the gym all bundled. That was a big change from his normal dress of a t-shirt and athletic shorts.

“Wow! It’s cold out there,” Tommy said as he walked through the door from the anteroom. “This cold and dark makes it hard for me to get up and work out this early!”

The other eight eyes walking into the room glanced at him in agreement. It was clear that winter had arrived and everyone in the little gym was grateful to be able to come in from the cold. Even if it was for the purpose of sweating for an hour, or more. Talk of the weather was a great way to break the ice hampering conversation at 4:45 a.m. and the discussion of the impactful temperature continued between the athletic friends.

“We’ve set up a warming center at my church,” Tommy continued. “We’re in the process of getting volunteers to greet and serve those seeking shelter; coming in from the cold. Once we have enough volunteers we’ll assign shifts to make sure we have people there to help at all hours.”

“This would be the perfect shift for you to take,” one buddy in the room responded. “After all, this time is most difficult for many and it wouldn’t be even be noticeable to you. You’re here every morning with us already!”

“Right? Most volunteers won’t want the 4:00 a.m. shift,” Tommy agreed. “But, I’ll fill in where ever I’m needed. It’s cold out there!”

All of the heads in the gym were bobbing up and down, like little yellow, rubber duckies floating on an agitated pond. And, those same heads were bobbing up and down once again as the workout had finished and everyone in the room was layering on hats, gloves, pants, and coats as if decorating a layered birthday cake. Such decoration against the cold took a lot of preparation.

The cold stayed the entire day. It continued through the night and into the wee hours of the next morning, when all of the buddies hit the gym again. Well, that isn’t exactly accurate. One of the guys was absent. Tommy!

He wasn’t there when the guys came in from the cold again and began removing the thick frosting protecting them from extreme temperatures. Their heads were bobbing up and down again as one of them spoke up.

“Tommy’s missing because he’s likely helping others come in from the cold. He’s surely in his church’s warming center,” he said. “He’d never say anything, because helping others isn’t something he ever takes credit for.”

This time, there were mumbles of agreement confirming Tommy’s character and those mumbles broke the ice again because Randy said, “let’s get going! It ain’t going to happen by itself!”

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"By Addition" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.22.2025

Twenty-seven countries, one chosen citizenship.

By Addition

“All rise!”

Everyone in one particular District Court of the United States stood as the judge walked into the courtroom. She was the last person to come into an already sardine-packed-room. To say there were a lot of people there is an understatement as another close by room was also filled with interested parties.

Every person was interested in being there for one or two reasons in common. The first reason was for those who had come to take their own, initial oath of U.S. citizenship. The second reason was to watch a loved-one attain their long hoped for U.S. citizenship. There were smiles all around.

The judge was also smiling as she opened the proceeding before saying, “Let’s go around the room and have each hopeful applicant tell us their name and what nation they’re from. Each candidate then took a turn to stand, say their name and state their current nationality. There were men and women with variety of age and one common hope and sense of accomplishment, even amongst huge personal and national diversity.

“United Kingdom,” “Bhutan,” “Mexico,” “Nepal,” “Canada,” “Sweden,” “Honduras,” “Russia.” The count went on until there were twenty-seven countries having been called out. At the end, the judge spoke about strength in diversity.

“We used to speak about American as a ‘melting-pot,” she said. “But, I think of our joining together a little differently. I like to think of each person who becomes a citizen as adding their uniqueness to our whole. It is an addition that allows our nation to become continually better.”

Then, she asked every applicant to stand, raise their right arm to the square and take the oath of citizenship. She led the oath with strength and pride. When completed, the court clerk took the a newly minted, personalized certificate of citizenship and presented it to each new citizen before the culmination of the ceremony.

“I invite everyone to stand to face the flag,” the judge announced. “Please repeat the pledge of allegiance.”

The already seasoned attendees stood and put their right hands over their heart as the judge started and they participated, “I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”

Yet what is commonplace for one is often new for another. Some of the new citizens did know the tradition with exactness. Some struggled with the placement of their hand over their heart, while others whose English was a newer language, watched the lip movement of the judge carefully. And, everyone participated with sincerity and commitment.

Because, citizenship is a commitment to a nation as well as to each other. It is a pledge to give our nation and our fellows our very best. All rise!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Granddad" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.15.2025

"I’m busy getting a new home finished for my coming grandbaby.” – Darrell Gibby

Granddad

“I’m busy getting a new home finished for my coming grandbaby.” Darrell said over the phone, “The baby is coming soon and we’re close to getting a new home built in time for the arrival.

Darrell is not going to be living in the house. But, his son and wife and their other two young children will be living there. They’ve all been working together to finish the construction for their growing family. They started building their new home a little over one year ago and have been doing almost all of the construction themselves. So, finding time to fling a hammer or wield other tools has been challenging since both father and grandfather have demanding careers.

Some grandparents would simply say they’re too busy, too old or too tired to throw themselves into such a large project. But not this Granddad! And, he is also busier than many others. He practices law, having his own firm, helps to care for aging parents and works as a volunteer, donating countless hours each week in his community. It is almost as if he is a “constructive tornado”! He does so much, one might be tempted to think of him as a “unicorn granddad.” Yet, if he is a mythical unicorn granddad he’s not the only one.

I sent a message to my friend Rob Surom two days ago asking if I could come over to visit. He’s “retired.” I was surprised to receive his unexpected response.

“It would have to be after 2 p.m. today,” he responded before I asked to come over at 4 p.m. that afternoon. But my schedule unexpectedly cleared so I sent a follow up request asking if I could come a little earlier. That’s when I received another text from him saying, “We’re home. You can come now.”

I wondered who the “we” was referring to as I knew his wife was working busily at the Children’s Hospital. My question was answered when I was invited into his home to find a baby girl held in this former naval aviator’s arms.

“I spend my days watching my grandkids,” Rob said with his disarming smile.

“Granddad,” I said to myself as Rob’s granddaughter looked at me and began to cry!

Rob immediately comforted her and in no time at all her tears were gone and her eyes were again a bright cerulean blue. Those cute eyes weren’t the only blue I saw after spending time with Rob and Darrell.

I saw a promising blue sky ahead for their grandchildren and I understood the use of “grand” as a precursor to the term grandfather and grandad!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

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"Bryan's Recipe" Monday's Warm Cocoa 12.8.2025

"It all starts with the dough.” – Bryan Brandon

Bryan’s Recipe

I was sitting across a table from Chef Tyler Rogers. He’d been crafting a new menu over the past year. One focused on local food products and producers. After explaining the basis of his menu, he brought out a couple of dishes for tasting.

The first dish, smoked shrimp with smoked pimento cheese, came with a beautiful slice of sourdough bread. When I tasted these in combination my eyes rolled back into my head. It was sublime! I had never tasted such layered, complimentary flavors. And, it was anchored solidly by the bread.

“This bread is amazing,” I said, before asking, “Did you make this bread in-house?”

“No,” Chef Rogers answered. “We get it here locally from Ozark Natural Breads.”

I made a mental note of that, excitedly thinking that, perhaps I would be able to purchase some of this crusty, tasteful bread to eat at home. But alas, my hopes were quickly quashed when Chef Rogers went on to tell me that the bread was only available on a wholesale basis. Still, I never gave up hope and before long I thrilled at the sight of Ozark Natural Breads in a farmer’s market.

That’s where I met company owner, master baker and artisan Bryan Brandon. Since then we’ve become friends and he’s been kind enough to teach me a little about what makes his offerings so delectable.

“It’s all about the dough,” Bryan told me in his bakery yesterday.

His sourdough starter began twenty-two years ago. Since then he added a cooling room to make it more vigorous. And, he’s worked to become better at his craft every day since he received his Bachelor’s Degree from the American Institute of Baking, completed an apprenticeship in a French bakery near Normandy and purchased the bakery from his parents. As a result, he’s an extraordinary artisan baker.

As an artisan baker he is constantly experimenting. He’s always working to improve his product and offerings. And he showed me his diversity by taking me on a little field trip to one of his latest ventures, Wicked Wood Fired Pizza. 

It’s a great little shop anchored by a colorful, large wood fired pizza oven, highlighting the side of his small restaurant. When I tasted his pizza, it filled my mouth with the flavor of red oak smoked sour dough!

When I pointed that out, Bryan looked at me with his big, wide, welcoming smile and said, “It’s all about the dough.”

That’s when I agreed, “Yes! A good, happy life requires a great base enhanced by constant experimentation and adaption. Then, when you throw in additional quality ingredients such as spice and diverse toppings, you have Bryan’s recipe for pure joy!

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I’m Lynn Butterfield, Real Estate & Lifestyle Expert and Television Host for American Dream TV. I’ve helped hundreds of Buyers and Sellers, as an Associate Broker with Coldwell Banker, to discover where and how they want to live and work; to achieve what I call Realesation™. That’s why I bring you American Dream TV, Both Sides of the Fence, About the Dish, Monday’s Warm Cocoa and Home by Design Magazine to stir your heart and mind. Contact me so I can join you along your own unique path of discovery.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/14AsoipiePjMdj7ds-f80BAGFyGWst-em/view?usp=sharing