Monday, June 4, 2018

A Belly for a Roof


One horse and two goats standing in a spring rain storm

A Belly for a Roof

The wind was forcing the trees to mimic the actions of a buggy whip as it ushered in a spring micro-burst-rain-storm, which is common during this time of year in the valley resting between the Stansbury and Oquirrh Mountain ranges of the Rocky Mountains.  It was the kind of storm that made me feel grateful to be in the shelter of my car as I was making my way home from a meeting.

The water pelted my car and made looking through its side windows a blurred vision of reality.  In fact, as I took a glance to my right, I worried just a little about whether my peripheral vision was accurate.  I had to look again.

My neck and head made the same whipping motion as the trees outside.  I slowed the car.  I stared!  Had my friend Terry Ehlers been looking through the windows of his home I’m sure the look on my face would have given him a laugh.  My eyes were fully wide and combined with my mouth to demonstrate a text book gawking position while attached to the end of a rubber neck.  I had never see such a sight!

One of Terry’s horses was standing, rump to the wind, as they instinctively do.  There was no surprise there.  My disbelief stood between the front and rear legs, below the belly of the horse.  Two goats stood, sheltered, beneath the horse.  They had a belly for a roof.  It made me smile and admire their ingenuity.

I also admired the horse.  She stood stoically, steadily for the benefit of the smaller creatures.  I watched as the wind blew the strands of her long flowing tail, like streaming horse feathers between her legs.  The rain likely stung and caused her skin to quiver.  Yet she stood tall, a monument to goodness, shelter, safety and the strong caring for the weak.  It made me want to be more like her and nurture those same qualities within my own character.

Luckily, you and I don’t have to be as strong as a horse to provide shelter, safety and strength to our neighbors.  We need only incorporate the four legs of a horse.

First, we must be able to stand ourselves, take the steps to be self-sufficient and put away a little extra to share with others.

Second, we must know our neighbors one-on-one.  This is not basketball.  It simply means making a little effort to know our neighbors by name, what they like to do, where they work.  You know, just get to know them.

Third, on other days when I’ve driven past Terry’s pasture I’ve seen the goats and horses standing, walking or eating together.  Nothing creates better rapport than breaking a little bread or going on walks with your neighbor.  Spend some time.  You have to eat and walking is great for you.  Why not take a walk or eat together once in a while?

Fourth. Know what to do when a crisis comes.  Horses know they will weather any storm better by putting their rump into the wind.  It protects the vital parts of their body.  Terry’s goats have spent enough time with the horses that they know how they will react during stormy weather and they know they can depend on their strength.  They know they are prepared and have the ability to offer them shelter.  Our neighbors will know if we re people of steady character as well, if we’ll allow them to get to know us, and they’ll instinctively know they can count on and come to us when they need help.  They’ll trust us because we’ve shown them who we are over time, during calm and stormy times.

It was a spring storm outside. I was grateful for some shelter.  The rain pelted my car and made looking through its side windows a blurred vision of reality.  In fact, as I took a glance to my right, I worried just a little about whether my peripheral vision was accurate.  I had to look again.

When I looked, I saw two goats with a belly for a roof!  They knew their neighbor could and would offer them goodness, shelter, safety and caring in the midst of the storm.  That’s what good neighbors do.

Monday, May 28, 2018

Blind Spot


“We should all work together individually to help on many different fronts.”

Blind Spot

My daughter was sitting by my side when she said, “I watched you check your blind spot, that’s good!”

I was driving.  She was my passenger. Now, these many years later, she’s a driver as well.  That’s a good thing, because now, when we’re together, she is very capable of watching out for blind spots right along with me.  After all, I’ve found that there are times when I don’t watch out for myself as well as I ought to.

In fact, there have been at least two occasions when I’ve been in such a hurry and simply sort of driving on “auto pilot” in my own driveway.   I didn’t have any one with me.  I was careless.  I backed into the car of friends of my daughters on both times!  There are no excuses here!  I was so wrapped up in my own head, assuming that everything was the way is almost always is, an empty driveway, that I didn’t take the time to check my own blind spots. So, now, when I’m backing up and my wife is in the car, she reminds me to take the time to actually check behind me before begin to back up.  It’s just a friendly reminder that makes a huge difference.

Her gentile aide-mémoire has been instrumental in causing me to appreciate other types of types of blindness from which I may suffer.  We all have such blind spots in our lives.  Do you know the kind of thing I’m talking about?  Not one of us think completely through things all of the time.  We also suffer from a lack of good judgement from moment to moment because of our own emotions every once in a while.  Recognizing this can make all the difference in potential outcomes!

Appreciation of our own potential weaknesses can open the way for us to enlist some “blind spot identifiers.”  Finding such identifiers can be relatively easy and is as simple as talking through challenges with members of your family or close, trusted friends & advisers that you know have your best interests at heart.  People who have shown you, over an extended period of time, that they have good judgement and care for you.

And, there are times when you also need to show your own good judgement and confidence in them by listening to and accepting the counsel from your trusted advisors. Because, there will likely be times when you aren’t thinking clearly and you don’t want to hear what they have to say.  That’s how you’ll know you’ve likely identified another blind spot!

So, here we are, you and me, driving through life with lots of potential blind spots.  Let’s make sure we include some well selected passengers to travel through life with us, now and for many years to come to as well.  It will be a good thing, because when we travel together, our trusted advisers will be very capable of watching out for blind spots right along with us.  After all, we’ve found that there are times when we don’t watch out for ourselves as well as we ought to.

Those sitting by our side will say, “I watched for your blind spot, it’s all good!”

Monday, May 21, 2018

Our Rigorous Education


“Do you often get the chance to show houses before the hit the market?” – Brad Romney

Our Rigorous Education

Quiet desperation had approached, gotten near and then settled squarely in my chest!  It was the day before showing some clients from the State of Washington seven homes.  I had been worried over the past three days that they’d all go under contract.  Now I was checking them one by one.  And, one by one they were showing as being under contract.  I had to search for other options!

Then, in a stroke, an ah-ha moment, I thought of the home I had just been given permission to market.  I checked my mental buyer’s-wish-list and went down each point in sequence.  There was only one conclusion to infer.  It was the right house for these people!  I reached for my phone and called for an appointment.  I pause here because this is not the focus of the story.

There was a sequence of events that led to this point.  A seemingly unconnected string of “coincidences” that all magically worked together to bring all of the involved parties a rush of unexpected surprise, a joy of finding and success.  Since you and I have lived for some time now, we can understand how fleeting such success can be.

We are all familiar with the fiery trials life offers us.  We all have periodic “public relations” problems with others, being misrepresented and misunderstood.  We all have to simply, “take it” from time to time.  As a result, when success comes to us we happily accept the relief and live to fight another day.  This creates a sort of civil war within us as individuals; a war between optimism and cave-dark despair.  It can also delude us into a thought pattern of “I made this success of myself!”

The truth was delivered to me quite dramatically through this one experience of a universe-offered clear vision of hind-sight to illuminate its inner-workings.  There is simply no way such a diversity of people and seemingly unrelated conditions could have lined up for the success of all! 

Since life illustrates, painfully at times, our own defects, as well as the defects of others, we are bound to be periodically disappointed thereby in ourselves and in others.  We cannot expect it to be otherwise.  We and the people around us come as we are.  Our journey requires shared patience, understanding and kindness on the part of all.  We all learn as we go!

Our lives ensure that we have only a small view of reality.  The universe is too vast, diverse and full of wonder for our limited minds to comprehend.  Its immensity tempts us to feel comfortable in adopting a myopic view while neglecting the grandeur surrounding us.  After all, we all do much more “lab and field” work than classroom lectures.  We tend to see only the trees and not the magnificence of the whole forest.

Still, the patterns of coincidence, gentleness & tenderness in our lives are too striking to be accidental.  It is astonishing to us when we have eyes to see and ears to hear the larger world.  When we do, it’s clear that the universe is giving away all of its secrets in an its ongoing education of us, every one!  Perhaps, especially when we are challenged most.

Quiet desperation had approached, gotten near and then settled squarely in my chest!  It was the day before showing some clients from the State of Washington seven homes.  I had been worried over the past three days that they’d all go under contract.  Now I was checking them one by one.  And, one by one they were showing as being under contract.  I had to search for other options!

Then, in a stroke of an ah-ha moment I thought of the home I had just been given permission to market.  I checked my mental buyer’s wish list and went down each point in sequence.  There was only one conclusion to infer. There was a sequence of events that led to this point.  They were not a coincidence!  They were too striking to be accidental! 

Such instances are astonishing when we have eyes to see and hears to hear.  It is clear that the universe is caring for each one of us by providing an individual, most rigorous education!